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rough week
This past week has been just awful for me since my thyroid problems began. I have zero energy, haven't been able to do anything around the house. My mood is bad, could care less if I even get dressed...and its usually afternoon before I get around to it.
My 20 yo daughter moved back home and has been causing problems between hubby and me. It would appear I have become public enemy #1 at my house and I feel like an outcast. Twice I have just upped and left either on a walk or a drive because I get tired of them treating me like Im the bad guy and the worse mom ever.
My 12 yo is NOT adjusting to school this year. I have sent several letters in to his teacher explaining his odd little quirks and she has yet to answer me back. The first thing he does when he gets home is yell at me for making him go to school and at least once a day he tells me he hates me.
If you havent figured it out by now..I am a HUGE animal lover and have a house full of all kinds of critters. My favorite is my orange kitty. He's my best friend, sleeps between hubby and I and he follows me where ever I go in the house. Out of blue .....hes gone deaf. He seems to be adjusting pretty good, but Im not. Just breaks my heart every time I call him to go to bed and then its like...oh yeah...so I have to go get him to take him to bed. He sits by me all the time and just stares at me like hes waiting for me to fix him and I cant. I know its nerve damage that comes from old age ( hes 9) but I would have to take him 200 miles from here and pay about 2 grand for a expert to tell me what I already know.....
I had called life alert for my father in law. I had info sent to his house and mine. Before hubby and I had a chance to talk to him THEY called him and he got really really mad at ME for interfering with his life. He ended up hanging up on me when he called and Im afraid he'll never think about getting it now.
I could go on and on but I wont. Enough whining for one day.
I hope everyone is having a good week and you all are feeling well. Good luck again to those who are having surgery.
Rhonda
My 20 yo daughter moved back home and has been causing problems between hubby and me. It would appear I have become public enemy #1 at my house and I feel like an outcast. Twice I have just upped and left either on a walk or a drive because I get tired of them treating me like Im the bad guy and the worse mom ever.
My 12 yo is NOT adjusting to school this year. I have sent several letters in to his teacher explaining his odd little quirks and she has yet to answer me back. The first thing he does when he gets home is yell at me for making him go to school and at least once a day he tells me he hates me.
If you havent figured it out by now..I am a HUGE animal lover and have a house full of all kinds of critters. My favorite is my orange kitty. He's my best friend, sleeps between hubby and I and he follows me where ever I go in the house. Out of blue .....hes gone deaf. He seems to be adjusting pretty good, but Im not. Just breaks my heart every time I call him to go to bed and then its like...oh yeah...so I have to go get him to take him to bed. He sits by me all the time and just stares at me like hes waiting for me to fix him and I cant. I know its nerve damage that comes from old age ( hes 9) but I would have to take him 200 miles from here and pay about 2 grand for a expert to tell me what I already know.....
I had called life alert for my father in law. I had info sent to his house and mine. Before hubby and I had a chance to talk to him THEY called him and he got really really mad at ME for interfering with his life. He ended up hanging up on me when he called and Im afraid he'll never think about getting it now.
I could go on and on but I wont. Enough whining for one day.
I hope everyone is having a good week and you all are feeling well. Good luck again to those who are having surgery.
Rhonda
Sorry things have been so bad for you. Like you really need all this stress right now!
Sounds like your husband and daughter both need a swift kick in the butt! When I was 20 I was also married. Probably most of us were. But I got divorced when I was 22 and moved back home with my parents b/c of depression problems every one was scared for me to be alone. Well, let me tell you I never took advantage of my parents like that. I worked and bought my own groceries and everything I needed, plus they wouldn't let me pay them for any bills, I wasn't making much, so I made it my job to clean the house and take care of the 2-acre yard. She is more than old enough to do most of the house work while you recover!
Husband is setting really bad example by going against you and I'm sure you both know that, but for some reason husbands seem to be able to justify it if it is them who is not supporting you. Not so the other way, I bet. My husband has a fit if he makes a decision and I go against it, even if I didn't know about it. But it's fine when he does it to me.
I'd make sure he knows he is not helping his little princess any by treating her that way. Will just continue to make life harder on her when she expects to get every little thing she wants, and all to go her way. Will be heck on any man trying to marry her.
I'm really sorry about your poor little boy. My stepdaughter is SN, also. Although her mother is the one who is raising her and acts like there is nothing wrong with her. It is soooo weird. But when I take our little boy to school I see her there all alone and my heart breaks. She has had so much trouble in school. I used to know most of the faculty there so I would just ask about how things were with her in school and it was never good. Since grade school they have main streamed her and I don't think it has helped her as much as if she had been taken care of like need be.
Also my son HATED school first 2 years, and every day he cried and cried b/c he didn't want to go. This went on ENTIRE time he was not at school. Exhausting. He also blamed me for it on a daily basis. So I do know how hard it is. Hang in there and know there are those of out here who can sympathize and understand. Does his school have different teachers he could use this year instead of the one he has? Understand about not putting him into new school.
Have you gone to the superintendant or the school board? Figure you probably have am just throwing things out there.
Hope things get better for you soon. If not maybe Venora could have them fly one of those jets to Indiana and blow them babies off the map!!!! :+}{ GRRRRRRR
Am praying for things to get much better for you and for God to give you strength to deal with all of this. And am praying for Him to give your husband and daughter a hard slap to the back of the head to wake them up!!! ;)
Dac
Sounds like your husband and daughter both need a swift kick in the butt! When I was 20 I was also married. Probably most of us were. But I got divorced when I was 22 and moved back home with my parents b/c of depression problems every one was scared for me to be alone. Well, let me tell you I never took advantage of my parents like that. I worked and bought my own groceries and everything I needed, plus they wouldn't let me pay them for any bills, I wasn't making much, so I made it my job to clean the house and take care of the 2-acre yard. She is more than old enough to do most of the house work while you recover!
Husband is setting really bad example by going against you and I'm sure you both know that, but for some reason husbands seem to be able to justify it if it is them who is not supporting you. Not so the other way, I bet. My husband has a fit if he makes a decision and I go against it, even if I didn't know about it. But it's fine when he does it to me.
I'd make sure he knows he is not helping his little princess any by treating her that way. Will just continue to make life harder on her when she expects to get every little thing she wants, and all to go her way. Will be heck on any man trying to marry her.
I'm really sorry about your poor little boy. My stepdaughter is SN, also. Although her mother is the one who is raising her and acts like there is nothing wrong with her. It is soooo weird. But when I take our little boy to school I see her there all alone and my heart breaks. She has had so much trouble in school. I used to know most of the faculty there so I would just ask about how things were with her in school and it was never good. Since grade school they have main streamed her and I don't think it has helped her as much as if she had been taken care of like need be.
Also my son HATED school first 2 years, and every day he cried and cried b/c he didn't want to go. This went on ENTIRE time he was not at school. Exhausting. He also blamed me for it on a daily basis. So I do know how hard it is. Hang in there and know there are those of out here who can sympathize and understand. Does his school have different teachers he could use this year instead of the one he has? Understand about not putting him into new school.
Have you gone to the superintendant or the school board? Figure you probably have am just throwing things out there.
Hope things get better for you soon. If not maybe Venora could have them fly one of those jets to Indiana and blow them babies off the map!!!! :+}{ GRRRRRRR
Am praying for things to get much better for you and for God to give you strength to deal with all of this. And am praying for Him to give your husband and daughter a hard slap to the back of the head to wake them up!!! ;)
Dac
I feel for you with the SN child. My daughter was (I suppose you could say still is) a SN child. She had and still has a social anxiety disorder making situations with lots of people very difficult...including classrooms...tests...etc...she is also dyslexic with numbers only...making math subjects a living nighmare...grade school was difficult, middle school and the first part of high school were nightmares....finally got some help with tutors and special testing situations in high school. She is in college now....she is in a program that allows her to take tests with a proctor if she asks in advance (mid-term and final exams). College is taking her longer than normal, but she is making it. I am so proud of her. She lives with her dad...not ready to live on her own yet, but one step at a time, I say. The last 6 years she has been on medication that helps as well. She was accepted into a 5 year BFA program in Fine Arts (fiber design) last year...she was in the BA program before that. She will graduate with the BFA next year. That said....there is hope....keep plugging away at that school system....and make hubby help you do it...there is hope...and as far as the 20 year old "normie"...she needs to get off her butt and appreciate what has been handed to her!!!! At her age I too was on my own...I was married and pregnant!
it is time for you to take some dart frog time.This stress is wipin g you out.Last year when I was hypo at the holidays I had to tell my folks I wasnt doing the tahnksgiving thing(I alwasy cook and do everything from scratch)and I took it easy at Christmas I let others take care of the details.I made hubby do the Christmas shopping and so forth.It is hard to let go but delegation is my watchword theses days and I have become quite good at it.
You take it easy and take care of yourself.
Love Venora
You take it easy and take care of yourself.
Love Venora
I certainly hope your days get better soon...I will be praying for you to find some kind of strength to get you through all of this stuff. God Bless-Pam
So sorry about what you're dealing with this week. No wonder you're feeling lousy- all that stress is wiping you out. Things always have a way of working out- never when we want though. I know sometimes I wsh I had a remote control to change things!!
~prayers for you~
teresa
~prayers for you~
teresa
if you actually know someone who has a SN child who really gets the best of everything at school......then you know someone who has gone thru hell and back and has fought tooth and nail to get it. Because that just doesnt happen.......it just doesnt. Kids like that, today, in the year 2007 are still treated poorly in the school systems.
we have my sons case conference on the 5th and for once hubby will have to go with me. my brain is just too foggy to absorb all the info and right now I have WAY too hot of a temper with that school...so hes going for their protection :-)
we have my sons case conference on the 5th and for once hubby will have to go with me. my brain is just too foggy to absorb all the info and right now I have WAY too hot of a temper with that school...so hes going for their protection :-)
Hey, we all get it here. We may not have the same scenerio's going on in our lives, but will listen and realize that your are STRESSED to the max!
While I don't have first hand experience in what you're going thru, I do have a close friend of mine who's going thru the same thing with her soon to be 21 year old high maintenance daughter and 17 year old special needs daughter (sweetest girl ever, is just so genuine -- and innocent. she'll remain the age of 5-6 mentally/emotionally). I spent the entire evening saturday listening to her similar rants about the princess and dealing with horrible school officials with her special needs daughter. You know, you always hear how special needs kids get the best of everything with schools, etc -- try to help them as much as they can - yet everyone I've talked to who actually has a child going thru a program, they have a similar story to tell as you. Go figure!
I'll be thinking of you -- I hope - especially for your son -- that things get better. I also wish you the best with hubby and daughter -- kick their butts to help out!!!
While I don't have first hand experience in what you're going thru, I do have a close friend of mine who's going thru the same thing with her soon to be 21 year old high maintenance daughter and 17 year old special needs daughter (sweetest girl ever, is just so genuine -- and innocent. she'll remain the age of 5-6 mentally/emotionally). I spent the entire evening saturday listening to her similar rants about the princess and dealing with horrible school officials with her special needs daughter. You know, you always hear how special needs kids get the best of everything with schools, etc -- try to help them as much as they can - yet everyone I've talked to who actually has a child going thru a program, they have a similar story to tell as you. Go figure!
I'll be thinking of you -- I hope - especially for your son -- that things get better. I also wish you the best with hubby and daughter -- kick their butts to help out!!!
up until she moved back home she had her own apartment, a full time job and went to school full time. Shes still working full time ( for daddy of course) but shes moved back here into another state so she has to wait until the first of the year to go back to school. She's allowed to live here for free to save up money and I dont have aproblem with that...........but shes been here for 11 days now and she as done a total of 3 loads of laundry, watched the eldest son during the mad-dash to the drs for the whole stitches...mess....(and she didnt have a choice hubby and I just...left)....and lets see......oh yeah put 10 bucks in daddys car for gas, even though she rides to and from work with him and she uses one of our cars to run her "errands.".....hmm.....yep thats it! And since shes daddy's little princess , while I go round and round with her, he just tells ME to calm down, let it go, she'll do it tommorow, shes trying to be helpful...blah blah bah..
Hubby has NO idea just how easy it would be to smother him in his sleep with a pillow.....I'm kidding....I think
and my 12 yo is a specail needs child. This is his 6th year at this school.....so far hes had 3 years where his teachers didnt like him, didnt want him in his/her class, didnt try to get the other kids to help/understand him, and made his life a living hell. The teacher was SO bad last year and he had the principal in his pocket for some reason that I ended up calling the police on both of them and TRIED to file a child negelct report because THEY LOST HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!....yeah I know what your thinking...Im an idiot for keeping him in that school but believe me...it would makes things much much worse for HIM if I home schooled him or switched to another school....and it would take days to explain all that.....sigh...... Damned if I do damned if I dont kind of thing
Thanks for letting me vent. since hubby is being a (bleep bleep bleep) I cant talk to him about any of this and my mom is on vacation...and what few friends I have just dont get it and dont want to get it...........so........
Hubby has NO idea just how easy it would be to smother him in his sleep with a pillow.....I'm kidding....I think
and my 12 yo is a specail needs child. This is his 6th year at this school.....so far hes had 3 years where his teachers didnt like him, didnt want him in his/her class, didnt try to get the other kids to help/understand him, and made his life a living hell. The teacher was SO bad last year and he had the principal in his pocket for some reason that I ended up calling the police on both of them and TRIED to file a child negelct report because THEY LOST HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!....yeah I know what your thinking...Im an idiot for keeping him in that school but believe me...it would makes things much much worse for HIM if I home schooled him or switched to another school....and it would take days to explain all that.....sigh...... Damned if I do damned if I dont kind of thing
Thanks for letting me vent. since hubby is being a (bleep bleep bleep) I cant talk to him about any of this and my mom is on vacation...and what few friends I have just dont get it and dont want to get it...........so........
I did a little "shout out" for you yesterday on the forum because I hadn't seen hide nor hair of you! I knew you were having some computer problems, but I figured something was up. I just had no clue so MUCH was up! It seems like when it rains, it pours doesn't it? You certainly have had a full plate for a while, and I hope you can get rid of some of that stress. I'm with Rayne - it's time for the 20 year old to knock it off! The last thing you need right now is problems between you and your hubby. Thank goodness for your kitty, even though I'm sorry to hear he's gone deaf. They don't care how beeeotchy you are, they just love you all the same. Gotta love that!
I'm glad you came out to vent. Do as much of it as you'd like. It'll make you feel better, and we'll be right here to listen (or join in!!!).
Big hugs!!!
Lori
I'm glad you came out to vent. Do as much of it as you'd like. It'll make you feel better, and we'll be right here to listen (or join in!!!).
Big hugs!!!
Lori
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with family issues as well as your health right now. That is the last thing you need. I've been thinking about you, and hoping that things were going well. I'm glad to see you back out here -- vent away! get it all off your chest! maybe that will help you from blowing too much steam at the family! They all need to take care of their own issues and quit putting the guilt on you!!! (yes, I know a 12 year old can't actually take care of his own problems, but I just hope that he'll get used to school and not take it out on you).
thinking of you,
betsy
thinking of you,
betsy
I'm so sorry things are rough for you right now. I'm glad you're able to take breaks and get out of the house by yourself. And shame on your 20 year old for causing problems - she's an adult, not a little kid and she should be grateful that you let her move back in instead of giving her a kick in the butt. I knew I wasn't allowed to move back home after the age of 18 unless I was gravely ill or some other major life tragedy struck. At her age I was living on my own and planning my wedding. So BIG BIG shame on her. Ok, getting off my soap box now. I'll be praying big time for you & all that's going on right now. And feel free to whine all you want; we care about you & want you to be able to blow off steam or cry if that's what you need.
Rayne
Rayne
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