my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion

[SilentLove]

My name is tiffany and im 18. My boyfriend is 20 and already has 2 boys by 2 different women. we have been together for 7 months this month. I am having alot of signs that I am pregnant but we are not sure. I have talked to my boyfriend and he was almost flipped out. He told me he wants me to have an abortion. Im strongly against it but I dont want to lose him. We live with his grandparents and they said that if I get pregnant then we are both getting kicked out. I looked it up about the pills you can take to terminate the pregnancy and i instantly started to cry. I cried all yesterday and all lastnight. we have been having sex  (unprotected) since day 1. Last night we had sex and he pulled out and i started to cry. it hurts me so much to even think he dont want a baby with me because he didnt ask any of the other girls to do it so it killed me inside. I dont know why but I have always wanted a baby. You know when they ask u in kindergarden what you wanted to be when u grew up? Well I said I wanted to be a mommy. I told jordan (my boyfriend) that I would move out and say that I cheated on him and that i dont know who that father is if i had to...because i dont want to lose him or this baby so i dont know what to do please help?

[belleof4]

I went through the same thing. When I was 28 my boyfriend of 2 yrs was 26 and had a career we were living together and everything was going great. Then I found out I was pregnant and he flipped out! He told me that I was going to destroy his life if I kept the baby (it was his first but my third, I was married prior) and he told me I didn't have a choice in the matter that I had to get an abortion. Sooooo I told him to kick rocks and packed my stuff and went home. He called me almost everyday begging me to terminate the pregnancy, I told him if he said that word one more time I would file harassment charges. After about two months he started calling me telling me he wanted me back. Needless to say we have a two yr old little boy and another on the way. When our son was born and he held him for the first time he held him and started crying and he looked up at me and said " please don't ever tell him what I said when we found out, I didn't realize how much I would love him". So my advice to you honey is to stand your ground and follow your heart, if he wants to be an *** then you don't need him in ur life, its amazing how strong a mother can be when it come to protecting her children, if he can turn his back on you during one if the most important times of your life then you are better off with out him.

[Julesxoxo]

My cousin did this, she really wanted to keep the baby so bad it hurt and her man told her he wasn't ready and to abort. I talked to her every day and she expressed it was what she wanted (to bore the baby) but she did not want to lose him. Well she had the abortion and it eats away at her every day. she worries about that baby day in and day out and what it could have been. Point is, nobody can force you to do something, you have free will, it's your choice and your body. I am against abortion now that I have a son, but when I was young I was pro-choice but don't get me wrong, I was only prego once in my life and if i'm brave enough to spread my legs then i'm responsible enough to give birth to my child I conceived. So stay strong and if he was cumming in you unprotectively, he knew this was going to happen. YOUR CHILD comes FIRST before anyone else, your child is from YOU. Put your baby before anyone, including his father. That's the way it needs to be if he continues to act this way..

[babymomma_18]

I'm 18 too and my boyfriend is 21 I think you should keep your baby if you are pregnant. Don't let someone force you to get an abortion. Do what you feel is right. Keep the baby hun

[babymomma_18]

I'm 18 too and my boyfriend is 21 I think you should keep your baby if you are pregnant. Don't let someone force you to get an abortion. Do what you feel is right. Keep the baby hun

[sweetpea03]

Sorry, I just remembered that you already took a couple pregnancy test that were negative, so why are you telling your bf you are pregnant and freaking out about this? I don't understand what you are trying to do. You already know you are not pregnant(unless you took the tests wrong?). Having a baby with a guy won't keep him around and faking being pregnant is not a smart move. He will hate you if he finds out you lied to him about it all. Also, why do you want a baby so bad right now? It's great to want to be a mom, but it's also extremely important to be in a long-term stable relationship prior to having children(along with other necessities: saved money, stable income, insurance, place to live, etc). Do you feel like something is missing in your life?

[sweetpea03]

You didn't see this coming? I'm not trying to be mean, but he has told you from the very beginning that he did not want any more kids, so what did you expect? It was incredibly irresponsible of him not to use a condom, but at the same time you could have used protection as well. You have only been together for a short 7 months, and you are getting to know each other still. This is his true colors, so do you really want to be with this type of guy?

As said before on other posts, take a home pregnancy test to find out if you are pregnant or not. There is no point in freaking out about possibilities(what ifs) when you don't even know for sure one way or the other about if you are pregnant. You can take a home pregnancy test 2 weeks after having sex or after a missed period. Take a home pregnancy test and then go from there...