my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion

[SilentLove]

My name is tiffany and im 18. My boyfriend is 20 and already has 2 boys by 2 different women. we have been together for 7 months this month. I am having alot of signs that I am pregnant but we are not sure. I have talked to my boyfriend and he was almost flipped out. He told me he wants me to have an abortion. Im strongly against it but I dont want to lose him. We live with his grandparents and they said that if I get pregnant then we are both getting kicked out. I looked it up about the pills you can take to terminate the pregnancy and i instantly started to cry. I cried all yesterday and all lastnight. we have been having sex  (unprotected) since day 1. Last night we had sex and he pulled out and i started to cry. it hurts me so much to even think he dont want a baby with me because he didnt ask any of the other girls to do it so it killed me inside. I dont know why but I have always wanted a baby. You know when they ask u in kindergarden what you wanted to be when u grew up? Well I said I wanted to be a mommy. I told jordan (my boyfriend) that I would move out and say that I cheated on him and that i dont know who that father is if i had to...because i dont want to lose him or this baby so i dont know what to do please help?

[babymomma_18]

I'm 18 too and my boyfriend is 21 I think you should keep your baby if you are pregnant. Don't let someone force you to get an abortion. Do what you feel is right. Keep the baby hun

[SilentLove]

Thank you everyone...and yes i thought about adoption and I couldnt do it. No offence but I believe god had/might have put a a baby in MY stomich for a reason and i want to know what that reason is. Im wont go through with an abortion because i would never be able to love myself nor him im afraid. me and him joke around and have fun now...kinda more than we ever did. but on another note, he refuses to have sex with me now. Im afraid this has ruined our love life...because knowing he didnt use a condom and stuff made me feel like like it was more intimate....he was sharing something of him to me. idk im going insane

[worththewait78]

Have you considered the adoption route?  Our first child came to us as a result of the blessing of adoption.  Good luck!

[waitn838]

other ladies have mentioned that nobody can force you to have an abortion....i can understand how your bf is completely overwhelmed with the thought of 3 kids....to you its only 1 but in his mind it would be his 3rd kid and hes only 20!!! way too young for that many kids

part of being in a relationship is being with somebody who you are compatible with....if your goal in life is to be a mommy (and there is nothing wrong with that) than you need to be with somebody who wants to be a daddy....people your age typically are not at that phase....they are living their lives and not thinking of having kids but there are guys out there that want kids and the right woman

babies are a lot of work and the fact that your bf who you have not been with for even a year does not want babies with you is a huge red flag.....you have to be the one to make the decision because it sounds like he made his

[michellelynnxx3]

Just pretend your period is a 28 day cycle and take a pregnancy test after a week it would be due then. I had my daughter at 16 with a person I thought would be there for me. It doesn't matter what he says, its your body and you can do what you want with it! If he doesn't support your decision then be done with him. Obviously he wasn't the one for you! Don't be worried, you can find a better guy in the future, cause if you are pregnant then you need to worry about what's good for you and your baby instead of worrying about if he's gonna be with you, im sorry though :( let me know how everything turns out sweetie!!

[Summer18]

I Can Totally relate to you in a way but my stiuation is worse! The Guy That I Might Be Pregnant By Is Avoiding Me :( i Called him & text him telling him we need to talk but no reply ;( He Says He's A busy Person But I feel he can atleast take the time to hear me out im scared & i feel alone.. :/ i just feel like if i am hes gonna do the same thing his dad did to him which is walk out on him . But i hope everything works out for you in the end love!