my boyfriend wants me to have an abortion

[SilentLove]

My name is tiffany and im 18. My boyfriend is 20 and already has 2 boys by 2 different women. we have been together for 7 months this month. I am having alot of signs that I am pregnant but we are not sure. I have talked to my boyfriend and he was almost flipped out. He told me he wants me to have an abortion. Im strongly against it but I dont want to lose him. We live with his grandparents and they said that if I get pregnant then we are both getting kicked out. I looked it up about the pills you can take to terminate the pregnancy and i instantly started to cry. I cried all yesterday and all lastnight. we have been having sex  (unprotected) since day 1. Last night we had sex and he pulled out and i started to cry. it hurts me so much to even think he dont want a baby with me because he didnt ask any of the other girls to do it so it killed me inside. I dont know why but I have always wanted a baby. You know when they ask u in kindergarden what you wanted to be when u grew up? Well I said I wanted to be a mommy. I told jordan (my boyfriend) that I would move out and say that I cheated on him and that i dont know who that father is if i had to...because i dont want to lose him or this baby so i dont know what to do please help?

[eligreco]

Omg am having my first baby now am 25 is the best feeling ever!!! Don't give up ur baby for no one!!!

[SilentLove]

since my periods are irregular im going to go to the doc soon and ask when i am supposed to take my birth control

[mamaof4410]

He obviously knows what the consequences are for having unprotected sex. And I'm sorry but I got pregnant with my first son at the age of 15 and if my boyfriend, now husband, would have told me to get an abortion we wouldn't be together right now. HE has 2 children by 2 different women, he knows what the result of sex is. You both should have been more responsible and he should have told you his feelings on having more children right now. I do not believe in abortion. You created a life, it's your responsibility as well as his to take care of this child if you are indeed pregnant. Take care of yourself and if you are not pregnant take this as a lesson learned and get on birth control or use protection from now on. You clearly know his feelings. He wasn't to concerned with being dis-owned everytime he layed down with you...right?

[jefelex]

You have done the right thing!!  don't give up - babies are humans too!

[AmyG89]

Good for you for standing up for yourself. Take another test-- a first response early result preferably and make sure you take it with first morning urine since the urine is more concentrated at that time and the test will be more accurate. If it is still negative then make an appointment with a doctor and get a pregnancy blood test done. They will test for your HCG level which is more accurate then a urine test. If this test is also negative then you can rest assured that you are not pregnant and please use some sort of birth control so this does not happen in the future. It is really important for both partners to be ready for pregnancy so please protect yourself. You can take contraceptive or he could wear condoms or better yet both of you do these things since no form of birth control is 100% reliable, it is best to have more than one method to reduce your chances of pregnancy even further. Good luck and please keep us updated. Again I am very happy to hear you stood up to him. Good Job.

[SilentLove]

I just told him Im not having one he can be behind me or not and he said he dont know what to do because if he stands behind me then he will be disowned and that hurts him. But this is my choice. I have irregular periods so idk when to take the test...me and him have sex almost every night so there is no telling when i concieved. I took a test a few days ago and it came up negative but it could be to early im not sure.