The lying friend?

[Help_Pedro]

My friend often lies & exaggerates the truth sometimes. But I was talking to her tonight & she decided to tell me about her ex boy friend raping her about 3 months ago. She says she hasn't told anyone about it or anything. I don't really know what to do. I was sexually abused when I was younger & never told anyone but my boyfriend about it a few months ago & I have always regretted not going to someone & telling them about it. But the thing is she tends to lie a LOT about when she has sex & who she does it with. But this time I want to believe her! & I don't really know what to do. & she just wants to forget about it all & act like nothing ever happened! Should I tell someone or something? What should I do?!

[firsttimemummy94]

Hi hun i have the exact same kind of friend except when i first told her that i had been sexually abused by my brother for years when i was young two days later she decided to say that she did aswell. i believed and tried to be there for her like no one was for me but then when i told her sister cause i was worried she said it was all lies. because she had told me it was her dads friend when she was young and her sister said her dad passed away when she was about 3 and they never had contact with his friends we havent been friends since it really hurt me that i was telling her something that has alwaya been hars for me to talk about and she just throws it in my face and makes up a story so she gets attention. anyway i hope you find out the truth. good luck

[margypops]

I think taytay meant her last post for Help- pedro...

[Help_Pedro]

Thanks to all of you for your advice & everythin

[taytay0308]

she is confideing in you right now.. that is the frist step you stay strong  and listen... maybe in yrs to come she will want help but until  shes useing you as he life line.... keep being a good friend

[margypops]

Then maybe she is in denial , all you can do is be her friend if you choose to be, its her life she will do what she wants to all you can do is support and help ..if you can or move on and find other friends..Good luck

[Help_Pedro]

Im sorry to hear that! Shes already told me that if I went & told that she'd never talk to me. An I guess it was a one time thing becuz she said she doesn't even know we're he is anymore. & when I ask what his name was she just completely freaked out on me & she she wasn't gonna deal with this anymore that she was done with it the past is he past she said.

[margypops]

I think as her friend you believe her , and really have serious talk with her about going and reporting this , you will lose her friendship if you do it, also the authorities will need her to make tea report of rape with all the details.You can offer to go with her so she doesnt feel alone ..you are a good friend ...

[taytay0308]

you can try in tell someone but all she will do is lie and say it didnt happen. i was raped and beaten and have had several surgerys from it and still need more. until she is really ready to get help and confront her issues she will make excuses and say it didnt happen. Although if this is something that has been repeted or is still going on then YES you do need to tell someone because you could save her from it happening again.