Help us!

[makyla]

My mom and I know we are under abuse... but need help. He hasn't phisically hit me. But he has thrown my mom around. I heard some clanggen around last Sat. Didn't think nothing of it. Come to find out it was my mom. She had a bruise, but it aint visible now. Authorities can't do nothen now.I want mom and I on our own. She does to.  I aint had her in 11 years. I don't want to be sent back to my dad. The man my mom is stuk w/ is just like my dad.
the only thing moms 'man' provides is a roof over our heads. No steedy meals, no going anywhere. Barely able to make it to it to school. We need to leave him but he physically stops her. Inabling her to go? Who do I ask to help? What can I do?

[JT2311]

I understand your fear and feeling paralyzed.  But if you can't get your mom to a shelter, you can go to a counselor for yourself.  It doesn't have to be a school counselor.  There are public places that offer free counseling like the YWCA or JCC.  Google the locations near you.  The problem with growing up in an abusive house is that everyone becomes co-dependent on one another for better or worse, and feels obligated to fix everyone else's problem.  It sounds like you've tried to get through to your mom, but she's not listening.  So all you can do at this point is take care of yourself.  Get therapy for yourself so you can cope with the situation.  A therapist might even be able to help you confront your mom and your step-father, or instruct you on any legal steps you might have to take to handle your situation.  Either way, you cannot do this alone.  You need help and it is out there, so search for it and get it!    

[Lucylu2]

Please have a exit plan.call your 911and ask for help getting out of the abuse.there are people that can put you in a very safe place . And I love my pets also you call shelters for them and they will foster them  until you are safe and have a proction order.  There is so much help now ask for it 'I pray you will!

[boozler]

i am new to this forum but you dont seem to have posted any thing for a while are u ok did you get out of there and also like jo said save yourselves and dont worry too much about the pets

[jo929]

you made the comment the shelter would take you and your mom and not your pets i am beginning to wonder about this post if you are worried about your moms life and your own you would go and worry about pets later someone can always go see about them jo

[makyla]

but we have two cats and two big dogs. they only take wemon and children. We can't, we Wont leave our pets behind. when all else fails we have each outher. they are part of our little family.

I can't look for numbers on the e'net for.. idk how long. I've been deleting the history everyday now. HE is getting suspicious. He watches mom and I very closly now. His kids are... for lack of patience, bad. They have faults we have made him see and now he looks at us for our faults.

Technicaly His daughter is what society calls an anerecsit, *****. His son would be a *******, druggy. I am  not saying these thngs to be mean. that is how they are. Even Their family says those things!

They don't like mom and I. Thay have been saying to Him, and now to mom, that ever since I got here Mom hasn't been spending time w/ them. 1) they didn't spend time w/ her affor I got here. 2)they don't like her. 3) It aint me she spends her time with. It's Him. He demands ALL her time. 4) they just want something to ***** about. 5) They don't care. They don't care that I have Never had a mom and I would like to have My mom affor the chance is gone. 6) They had, and still, have a mom and dad. Why can't I have a least a mom?

I grew up with an abusive dad, believing Mom didn't love me and that she had abandoned me. Only to find out that was a lie. She wanted me back, but dad wouldn't let her have me. My bro. is still there, but don't want to go.

Any time He yells at His daughter she tells him to stop, and He does! Any time His son gets into trouble he gets off easy! They know no disiplin and respect niether Mom nor I.

Mom is a great cook, but They smack her down by refusing to eat her food. My soul is tired. so is Moms. She feels useless. She as been in these situations before (all men seem to be the same) and the only help we get is away from the law.

[jml1986]

I know that you do not think people will care if you talk to them because you are new to the area, however that is not the case. School counselors are a great resource and can steer you in the right directions. Also since you have a computer, you have phone numbers at your finger tips. Keep us posted.

[jo929]

i think you can call the operater and get the no of a hotline and they will tell you where to go also ask for the no for battered woman and children and when he leaves to go somewhere get ou and go to scholl church police anywhere and ask them where to go   lots luck  jo

[makyla]

Thanx for the advise. But I am new to Texas... So my school doesn't know me, my past, or my current situation. They wouldn't care about me there. No one there does anyway. So it's just smile, nodd, and pretend everything is ok.

[makyla]

If you could get my a # or location in Conroe, Texas. I've been looking around for all that info. to get us out... but I have never had to do this before. My mom was the escape from my "dad"... now we got to get away from another abuser.

[jml1986]

You need to tell someone hun. Whether it be your school counselor, your pastor, or a friend parents. It is important that you tell someone even if you are scared. If you don't someone could hurt bad.

[brklyn208]

Hey makyla I was in your exact shoes when I was about 13. I am 22 now. But I am here for you if you need anything! But my best advice would be to go with your mother to a shelter, they have shelter's for victim's of domestic violence and their children! And they will help your mom get on her feet. They will provide you both with food, beds, and help your mom get a job(if she doesn't already have one) . And any legal stuff she has to do to keep him away. If you tell me what state you live in I can find out where to go, or at least a number for you!!!! But anymore questions please ask! I've seen my mother beaten and put in her death bed by a man and I will do anything to help out someone in that situation !!! Please be careful and I will pray for you and your mom!!!

[SL345]

Go to your school guidance counselor or social worker.