This is to help you. CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE HELP!

[gomemi]

I was abused when I was 13 years of age, by a man who was friend's with my dad since childhood. First, this is also to aware people about how you cannot trust everyone. I used to consider this man like an uncle. This incident took place in the summer, and it practically ruined a big part of my life! I had to deal with depression, high anxiety, sexual indecision, failed relationships, failed relationship with my parents, anger, alcoholism, drug addiction, problems with school, problems with self-esteem, and lot's of mental problems that caused me to always think that people were always criticizing me. It was hard to me to deal with all theses problems, and always would lean on my friends as I never had told my parents or the police about it. Well, I took the iniciative now, to go and tell both parties, and I'm dealing the way I should have a long time ago! And trust me, You, if you have been a victim of sexual abuse, Go see the police, tell your parents, do something about it, because people who do things like that, have no consideration for others, and they use and abuse of everyone around them! You cannot be part of something like that, and have to go and fight against a person, most likely known as a creep, a low life person like that!

I honestly researched alot about sexual abuse, and tried to console myself into, "I can deal with it" type of idea. When I now, know, being 21, that I should have dealt with this a long time ago. And also, don't feel ashame to go and tell people who love you, they are the ones who will help you! Don't let something horrible like this destroy your life. You can be a stronger person by letting people help you!

I am so happy my parents know about this, they deserved to know. This man works with my parents ATM, and I feel terrible I allowed this man to talk to my parents in the past. But now, Tomorrow, this man will be interviewed by the police, and I am hoping justice will be done! I hope he pays for everything he made me go through!

I basicly dealt with this all by myself, I did become a stronger person, but I want you, who have or is still being abused, to go and do something about it! You can be a better person, and you can succeed in your life. Let the doors open by themselves, and have that door, the one who caused you pain, to be shut for eternity, and that the person who remains inside that room, feels the pain it caused you. And now you can move on with her life, while they're there, paying for what they have done. Anyone who has desire to have sex with a child, is a pathetic, non-sense, idiotic person! Have justice in yourself to make justice in this world, and stop child sex abuse in the world.

Thank you.
If you have concerns, don't hesitate to message me. I would be more than happy to help you do what's the best for you, as I am doing for myself ATM.

[margypops]

A light bulb goes on from what I hear from others who have been successful like you narla , and gone on to have a full life, I have always thought acceptance is part of it, realising that they havent won and ruined your life that in the end you won , your story is a powerful one . the story you tell kenneltech  is indeed hard to read ,its unbelievable any parents would do this to their child I hope you will get the help you deserve and be able to say the same as Narla one day

[narla]

I went to my parents in my 20s about the sexual abuse I suffered as a 7 to 10 year old,the perpetrator was my 17 to 20 year old brother,my parents didn't believe me,I also have no proof of what he did to me so I couldn't go to the police.
But I have still been able to deal with it, it just took me until I was 48.

[kenneltech]

It's nice that you are offering to help others that have gone through this, but some have gone through it for a lot longer, and a lot more violent, and everyone's experiences are different.  I think that it is wonderful that your parents love you and are helping you.  MY parents are the one's who sexually abused me, as well as my own mother's "johns".  It is and was impossible to go to anyone for help at that time, as I was told by my entire family that I was a "mistake" and basically, no one really cared.  I aborted my own father's child at the age of 13.  Incest started with my mother at the ripe old age of 4 (oral).  This went on for years and years and years, but there were threats (and they were carried out, I walk around with a small caliber bullet in my head today from my mom), broken backs, fingernails pulled out with needle nosed pliars, broken legs, arms, starvation (yeah, the JUSTICE SYSTEM REALLY HELPED OUT...NOT!)  My mom was "doing" half the police department.  Sometimes, things arent' quite as "cut and dried" as just going to your parents and getting all the love and help you need.  

I agree about not trusting many people.  Believe it or not, some of my mother's best customers were lawyers, teachers, political officials, the cops, EVERYONE you would never suspect!  And you wouldn't believe the one's who liked LITTLE GIRLS!!! namely, ME.

If you can put your life together, then do it, and I hope you can help others, we all need all the help we can get.  I have been in therapy since the age of 16, and am now doing EMDR therapy for severe complex PTSD, a direct result of what happened to me.

Good luck and God Bless.

[margypops]

Thank you this is always a help to others , it shows that you can make it through and get on with your life ,you are right in adversity we do become stronger people .Good luck you are a success story ...

[allmymarbles]

You will feel much better now. There is nothing like justice to give you a little lift.

[Dazon50]

Good for you!!!!  Thank you for posting this.  You are using your experience in a positive way.  That is hopeful for many out there who will read this and be encouraged to speak up and bring the abuse out into the open to be dealt with.

zzzmykids:  Thank you also for sharing.  My heart goes out to you and I commend you for being involved with your neice and for what you have gone through with your family as well as your daughter.  

Ditto to you also with the "written hug" or someone to scream/vent at.  It is a huge step to be able to listen without bringing it always back to yourself.  Congratulations :-)

[zzzmykids]

I understand molestation, incest and rape. First, before we knew about our own child we became the legal guardian for one of my nieces. She told on what happened to her sister and we were given custody in another state. The sister is Bp1, I see regularly and she and all of the daughters and us have forgiven the father, but we don't let him near children by himself.
Our own child was raped by a neighbor of my parents, we all knew eachother for years and she, the rapist was  19 and our baby six...we found out when our child was 18 and no prosecution could take place. She is continually angry at me, no one else, just me.
This same daughter, we still have not heard it from her, but we found out the first year of college she was out of state and called her sister after her new boyfriend raped her. Her sister got the police and hospital involved and  just this year told us, it happened nine years ago.
So we understand from being parents, psuedo parents of those who have been molested.. I am sorry this happened to you.
I think much of my own depression is due to the  sadness of knowing my daughter could have been more than brilliant and wonderful to others, she/we could have worked through the blame she feels for me.
Congrats to you, again for being able to be a vessle to help others. If you need a written hug or someone to scream at, I know how to listen without internalizing anymore.