Leave .. they will cry and say they'll change. I heard it for s year and before I knew it he was strangling me in his bed and I nearly died. Get..out..now. women die every day at the hands of men like him...get out before it happens to you..please
i can sort of see that my mum has gone through 'difficult relationships' as we have grown up but i always thought i would not be like that and her, but he was fine in the beginning, it does get bad but i think i can maybe the one who helps him if not just leaving him will end him he has told me so but he is better then the ugly side of him, but he only mentions sketches of army and daughter he lost i do think its a big part, what is the VA i will introduce it to him see how it goes and thank you for your comments i have taken the advise in and will let you know how its pans out.
thanks
Some people are seriously damaged by their army experiences, whereas others appear to come through it without a blemish. You seem to care very much for this man and, yes, as suggested above, he should seek help at the VA, or elsewhere. But keep your own safety in mind. If he refuses help, or if he does not show improvement through therapy, you will have to leave him for your own protection.
The VA does offer mental health help. He should contact them for references in the area he lives in.
However, my advice remains the same for you. You need to leave him. This relationship is violent and toxic. That you so want to work it out worries me about why. Often women with abusive men have deep routed patterns that have caused them to be attracted to unhealthy situations. You should absolutely explore this to get yourself out of it. good luck
if there are any places available where he can get help to speak about why he is angry, been in army for 10 yrs and his baby passing, i dont think he has had the right support for it as it happened whilst he was posted.
What is your question? You have described an abusive relationship, sometimes involving mutual physical abuse. But hat is all. What sort of help are you looking for?
Kaylee. Physical abuse should be a deal breaker. Shouting in your face should be a deal breaker on it's own but physical abuse and "hurting you" is just not acceptable. That you've stayed after enduring this is concerning. You do realize that most wouldn't stay I hope. Why you have is something for you to explore.
It does not matter how rosey it is or how sweet/nice he is or how great it is when he isn't screaming at you or physically hurting you. It doesn't matter one bit. You can NOT stay in a relationship in which someone has hurt you and continues to do so. That person is not safe.
If your mother or sister were with a man and you witnessed that man shout right in their face and then hurt them . . . what would you say? You'd tell them to throw the bum out.
This is what you need to do for yourself. Love YOURSELF enough to do that. Peace to you