appropriate age for girls

[milehighguy]

what age is the appropriate age for a father to stop picking up his daughter and letting her wrap her legs around his waist while they hug and kiss each other on the lips?

[margypops]

He may be considering that he is losing you unless he changes the way he allows his daughter to behave maybe its a matter of how much he wants to be with you, after all you are not saying he wont see his daughhter but just that the behavior be toned down to fit in with both of you .Maybe let it be for a short while and see what happens ,remember he has to be careful not to make his daughter upset to extremes as she is used to a lot of affection if he does what you are asking he will have to start to put her down and not allow the behavior thats not going to be easy..Good luck i hope it works out ....

[milehighguy]

He has also been short with his words when texting, as if he has turned cold. He told me he had to think with his head and not his heart because it was too painful right now. I'm not quite understanding what he is thinking, but it's conflicting to me...

[milehighguy]

Yes he and I have had some extensive talks about things and he has changed his behavior, but he is also talking to an "old friend" right now at the same time and talking to me less, but telling me he wants noone else.His actions are contradicting his words. He has asked for time, a break from dating, but has said he is analyzing the situation. I'm not sure how it is going to turn out...

[margypops]

He would if he wanted to , he doesnt want to change his ways he wants you to accept it, you cant so there fore you both move on , it is sad, have you heard from him since he called you , maybe you are going to have to let go,let some time go by ..I didnt mean it was a color thing I meant that if he was from a latin or south American culture they are more demonstrative and its hard sometimes to understand it ...

[milehighguy]

Margypops, he is just as country white boy as can be so it's not culture, but I hear you. I'm still heartbroken because we already had our future planned out. I had a ring and we were going to commit soon. My world just shattered in seconds and all I have done is cry. I'm not sure how to move on from the love of my life. I know what he was doing was not normal to me, but was I right to call him out on it? Rockrose, thanks for the best wishes. My son hasn't found out yet, but I know when he finds out he will be devistated. Neither of us want to tell him, or his kids. I think he has seen it to an extent, but just denies it. I just don't understand why he wants to throw away our relationship over something that can be managed differently.

[RockRose]

milehighguy,  this is so sad.  : (   I'm really sorry that your son lost out in this.  

But I really don't think I could sit in the room while she dances for him.  I can't imagine that he doesn't see it - especially since he has other daughters who apparently have a more normal relationship with him.  

Best wishes.