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Thank you all for responding to my post. I am greatful to you. this is to kenneltech...no I have not tried EMDR. Ive heard of it by name but I dont know what it is. If it will help I will try it. Ill ask my therapist and PDOC if they know.I wish that I knew someone that relates. I have met many that have been molested, but I have not mmet anyone who has been abused as you kenneltech..with all those things going on at once., I think one has things going on that are not present in someone who was...who only has to deal with the molestation issue.( I know that came out wrong...any abuse is hard enough to deal with). I would like to correspond with you kenneltech. my email is ***@**** would like to hear about EMDR. Thats if you wouldnt mind.I have tried almost everything but that.And nothing has worked.I am still living in my past. Its always there.wether im thinking about it or not, its there.thank you agian everyone that responded...brian
Have you tried EMDR treatments? I was physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally and physically abuse also. I tried everything, even shock treatments and the only thing that is helping me is EMDR.
I can recommend a book for you: Abused Boys. It's an excellent resource for boys who experienced abuse. I'm sure you've probably already discovered that there aren't a whole lot of resources devoted to boys, so I was glad to find this one. One word of warning - the second half of the book contains the stories written by men who were abused as children. I wouldn't recommend reading them until you talk to your therapist about it first. No doubt there will be some things that will trigger certain reactions in you, and until your coping skills are solid enough to deal with those triggers, you probably want to wait on that part of the book.
You have your own story to tell, and you made a great start with this post. The idea with therapy is to finish that story and put it behind you; throw it in the trash; dispose of it. I do hope you will keep up with the therapy. It's a long and difficult process, but as honest as you appear to be, I think you'll come out on top. :-)
All I can say is keep up with the therapy,make sure you are honest about everything you went through so each issue can be dealt with,I have just finished intensive counselling this is my third try and finally because I was ready and totally honest with my counsellor we were able to deal with everything in my childhood,I have finally learnt how to cope and have a life free of shame,guilt and blame.It is not easy but it is worth all the heartache in the end,reliving my childhood was hard but It was something I had to do to get closure. I'm 48 and it has taken me this long to deal with it.
Good Luck and stay strong Denise
Dear Brian,
I am sorry to hear of your terrible experiences that you faced in your childhood. I can relate to you fully . When I was age 15 to 16, I was molested by a family friend. Then at age 20 I was raped and became pregnant by my assailent. Needless to say I chose to keep my son because I am Catholic. I went to therapy for many years regarding this issue. I am also Schizoeffective and harm myself to by pulling out the hair on my head. Well I am 46 years old now and time and therapy have healed my wounds. I am thankful that I don't have flashbacks. But when I see stories about child molestation on TV or online this truely angers me. Children are Gods preciouse angles and no monster ********* should allowed to hurt them. What I do to cope these days are beco ming involved and activating for our youth regarding this issue. I wish you all the best. I hope in time your mind , body and soul will heal. Use your supports that you have. Your Therapist , Phsychiatrist and family and friends. These message forums boards you should also find helpful. I wish you all the best Brian good luck.