mental torture

[bondapan]

Hi everybody,

I have been wanting to write to anybody who can help me with this for sometime now but i think its too much now.I have been married to a usa citizen for the last 9 mnths and i recently got my conditional green card.Things were never really awsome between us but it was adjustable but now its come to that stage that i am going through extreme mental pressure and one of the reasons she is doing that is because i have not got a job yet and its not for lack of trying .The problem here is ,this woman is probably had a bad past atleast thats what i guess,so everything i do is a problem for her.If i got out ,the question arrises"where did u go",iif i stay in the house.."the qeustion is what the heck are you doing in the house"and if i talk back she comes up with filthy language and also sometimes a bit physical as well and if i start to talk back ..immediately she threatens me ,"dont forget ..that if i want i can cancel your conditional green card and kick you out of usa.And now its becoming scary for me to even talk to her ,because its almost like she is waiting to get something out of me to attack me.I know that even though i am a condtiional green card holder i have my rights in this wonderful country callled usa.I live in california and i want to do something against this because now am even gettting scared about my life ...because she is a very aggresive woman and if she does something ...which cannot be take back then...i loose and if i decide to get physical with her then i can go to jail.But am getting to that point where something has to be done or she is going to keep doing this to me.Please guide me through this hardship people.

thank you

[margypops]

I am an American/Brit I had a green card ,before becoming a citizen,  am not certain what you mean by conditional, but I am sure you have rights, so as Rock said get information about those rights, you dont have to put up with this behavior, do not get physical , that wont look good, when she is nasty, walk away from her,no retaliation, she may quieten down when she gets no response. if that doesn't work, move out. Work is tough for everyine now especially CA I suggest you get something of your own going, trades people are always in demand , plumbers, electricians, you can go to trade school ,  even window cleaners... look online if you want work you can find something ...Good Luck  

[cheshchesh819]

There is only one thing to do leave,get the hell out of there before she hurts you or like you say turns you to violence and then a criminal record she has no control over you or your green card if you aint with her,who does she think she is a permanent ficture within the embassy,she is nothing but a bully maybe brought on through the past but that is not your fault and she should be getting help to sort it not turn on you.

[RockRose]

I really don't know much about immigration rules and green cards,  but it sounds to me like you married her so you could stay in the US.  

You need to go to the immigration office and find out what your rights are,  exactly,  before you proceed.

Best wishes.