sexual abuse as a kid

[boogiefly]

Hello, I guess I should have been here sooner.  I was molested by my uncle off and on starting from age 4 until 8.  I have noticed (being an adult now) that I have suffered from anxiety since that has happened to me.  It used to be every time I'd go out to eat with people.  I had to run to the bathroom and gag, or throw up.  My mom couldn't take me anywhere to eat.  Now it happens to me when I go out to eat with new people, or sometimes with people in general, even if I have gone to lunch with them a million times.  Also, this happens to me when I get nervous about other things sometimes.  Its emabarrassing, and I want to stop feeling this way.  I have no idea what going out to eat or eating around certain people have to do with me being molested almost 30 years ago.  I haven't seen my uncle in over 15 years.  I can't even eat at my Dad's house during the holidays.  I try to avoid eating there at all because I gag out of being nervous.  It just feels like someone is choking me. Does anyone else have this problem?  If so, does anyone have any clues as to how to fix this?  

[jo929]

By all means get some help and tell your mom and dad and also see that your uncle is punished for his crime why should he be feeling fine and you the victim make him pay just as you have tell his whole family it will do you good to get it out of your systym then maybe you can start to let go cinfront this man  and tell him what a slimy so and so he is make him suffer awhile  luck  jo

[Marylou_II]

Your problem is that the feeling you have numbed since that happened is becoming active, you need to get help as soon as possible. Your best choice would be a Trauma Specialist/therapist, these are the ones who treat PTSD patients and they have all the possible knowledge on how to get you out of that situation. You can usually find them in hospitals or trauma centers, they truly help because they have the knowledge to do so.

What I don't understand is how your uncle got away with what he did to you? Did you tell your parents? Did you tell anyone else? Were the authorities called? By covering up this horrible man you are becoming a facilitator for what ever he has done to other children. These people should be put away, locked and throw the key away. You must understand that those men are not normal, they are mentally sick and there is no cure for them. I know that time has passed but all the same if he is still around throw the authorities on him and have him locked up, he is a public danger to other small ones who will also have the same problems or worse you are having due to his nasty doings to a baby girl.

For heavens sake get help as soon as possible from a trauma specialist and think about what you can do to this mentally ill man.

Take care.      

[shaz853]

Hi, i don't have the problem of gagging when i eat but i was sexually abused as a child and as a result i not suffer from anxiety, panic attacks, argraphobia and major depressive order it took years of therapy for me to realise where it all came from. The choking feeling you describe is caused by anxiety, have you spoken to anyone about this perhaps if you got help with what happened when you were a child it would help how you feel now. Have you spoken to your doctor he could maybe point you in the right direction. Take care