33 weeks and 5 days and im takeing opiates(scared need help)

[melissa347]

I dont Know what to do I know i am wrong for takeing pain meds while im pregnant. I been takeing oxycodone (percocet),oxycotine,some vicoden the whole time. I did manage to just stick with oxycodone and cut down to where i can cut a 30mg into 4pieces and be ok with that for the day.I used to be up to 12 plus pills a day.Now i am very worried about this cus i have bipolar and severe depression and anxiety. I go to a shrink perscriber and now there doing mandatory drug screening. I peed in a cup today but only a lil so i dont even know if they can use it i did take a 5mg and 20mg of percocet yesterday. I dont know if it was enough urine if it will show up and i am worried about it.This perscriber I have is really rude and miseriable she is new and this is only the 2nd time i have seen her.Anyway my OB has no idea I been takeing percocet or others i mentioned. I am scared to say anything because I dont want my baby taken but i know it will probably show in her system when she is born. I have had a past of useing drugs crack cocaine 13yrs i been clean off that. I have 3 childeren i do not have that the state took custody of not because of drugs but becase i was not on meds at the time and i was unstable.I am thinking they will take my baby cus of my past and use this against me im so worried and scared I have no clue how to deal with this. I have till between dec 30 - jan 3. I also live in MA and dont know there laws about it here. Someone please help and give me some advice if you can.

[dominosarah]

Do you have a therapist or counselor that you are comfortable talking with?  That will really help you deal with all the trauma you have gone thru.  As for right now, you are trying to make things better for you and your baby and you will succeed in coming off these pills.  Once you tell your OB about this you will feel so much better.  You are a good person Melissa, you just made some bad choices just like we have all done.  We have a couple girls that are pg now and have come off pills and they are feeling better.  They will be on in the morning as i am sure they are sleeping right now.  This isnt hopeless at all.  You can get your life back.      sara

[melissa347]

Thank You Sara !!!! You are the first encouragement I have had in along time..... I do have a therapyst and a med perscriber same place I have to be on my antidepressants. Just not on the other everyday. I have to learn to live with chronic pain. Not because of pregnancy I have had it before pregnancy but was takeing more then i am now way more.....How can i be addicted to crack cocaine and stop without thinking twice about it cold turkey no help. But i cant stop takeing a pill everyday for pain..... Its so hard to answer and I dont know how to answer this even know its for my baby and my health. I have a big question tho if i start getting off now will my baby be ok without withdrawls from this drug and will I be ok? The biggest thing is knowing my baby will be ok. You also mentioned there are other ladies that tapered off did there DR know and do they have healthy babies and have there babies and how far along where they?

[dominosarah]

Good Morning Melissa~~

Stuckandscared didnt mean any harm by what she said.  She knows how hard this is too.  Take some deep breaths okay~~

How are you feeling this morning?  Have you thought anymore about talking to your OB?  When do you see her next?  Do you know if this is a girl or boy?  I  seem to be full of questions today!!!

[dominosarah]

Melissa, i just contacted one of our girls from the pregnancy forum.  She is such a sweetheart and has a ton of knowledge about this.  She is also expecting another baby too.  

[Ashelen]

Hi Melissa (thanks Sara!)

First of all I really need to start by dispelling a myth. Narcotics can be taken safely during pregnancy, and the only danger they pose is withdrawal after delivery. However, you are not taking them safely BUT...you can fix this by telling your OB. Like some have mentioned, if you do not tell them, your baby WILL test positive at birth through meconium testing, and then you do risk the baby being taken away. Not only that, but baby may suffer withdrawals until they figure out what's going on and are able to begin treating him/her, and that is something you want to avoid!

So the best thing to do here is to talk to your OB. if you are honest, your OB will help you come up with a plan for the rest of your pregnancy and delivery...your OB will know what to look for after baby is born (i.e. breathing problems, or withdrawals) and they will be able to take care of baby appropriately. It is imperative that your doctor knows what you're taking. If your OB knows that you will test positive at birth, there will be no surprises, and while you may have to speak with a social worker, it is unlikely that in this scenario your baby would be taken from you.

I don't know the implications of all of this with your other children already in state custody, so I can't tell you exactly what will happen, but I DO know that you stand a much better chance of going home with a healthy, happy baby if you tell your OB everything, so he can help you. He wants your baby to be healthy, and he wants your baby to be happy (with mommy!) so he is going to do everything in his power to get BOTH of you there together, OK?

Again...narcotics can be safe during pregnancy when used properly under a doctor's supervision. I don't necessarily advocate it, but generations of women have been studied taking narcotics during pregnancy and they are not known to cause birth defects or delays, so let's make sure that the information we are sharing is accurate. They are NOT ideal to be taken during pregnancy, and if taken without doctor's orders or knowledge can be devastating for several reasons, but they CAN be used safely...just wanted to clear that up.

Anyway I think you need to take a really deep breath here, OK hon? Things will be just fine. Once your OB knows, he can help you and baby get everything straightened out so that your day of delivery is a time of joy and anticipation rather than dread and fear. But you must be honest, this isn't about avoiding trouble this is about getting baby the attention he/she will need after delivery.

sweetheart, don't let anyone cast stones...a pregnant woman is still human, and people sometimes expect addicts to become suddenly superhuman just because they're pregnant but life just isn't that perfect. I do not have any abuse issues, but I had kidney stones and a kidney surgery@ 34wks when I was pregnant with my daughter and was given pain meds while I was hospitalized, and she was delivered after I had tapered off of and quit the meds (voluntarily - my doctor told me I could stay on them while I recovered from the surgery but I opted not to) and she was perfectly healthy and happy and bright with no dependence issues. I also had to take pain meds when I was pregnant with my son because of neurological complications and a back injury, and I was NOT able to taper off near the end (following my Dr's advice there - he told me not to stop taking them) and he was born perfectly healthy and happy as well, with no dependence issues despite not being able to taper due to my complications.

Now some babies ARE born with dependence issues, and some are not, and there's no way to predict which your baby will be, so it's absolutely vital (I know I've already said this like 10 times, lol) that your OB knows what to expect so he can help the baby immediately if an issue does arise instead of playing a guessing game. As I have already said, women the world over have taken pain meds during pregnancy for GENERATIONS (it used to be straight morphine!) with no proven birth defects or developmental delays, but the best story always comes out of a mommy/OB team working together for the baby's health...so try to relax...just be honest..and see where the chips fall, OK?


best of luck, and when you feel up to it please come on over to the Medhelp Pregnancy 18-34 forum to share your pregnancy with us; I'm one of the Community Leaders over there and we have some really great support for pregnancy and delivery advice there!

-Ashe

[melissa347]

I called an addiction clinic to help but now the hard part is to call my dr so my dr can can agree for them to give me subutex or not.Now calling my dr is hard what do i say and how do i say it i need some guidence here. please give me advice on what to say. I have to speak to a receptoinist first to let them know what i need this is embarressing and i know i should be embarressed. All i want is a healthy lil girl and get this out im crying right now for my baby and just to let everyone know i am a good mom im a mom to my 17yr old and never did nothing with him and he is a typical 17yr old boy. So its not that i dont take care of my responsibilitys I do and I will always no matter what.