Counselor, wants me to stop going on this forum? Why?

[Penelope14]

Today, I went to speak with my counselor who has recomended to me to stop going onto this forum & reading & replying to others who are detoxing off methadone or any other drug, as she feels it may set me up for failure, she claims that the horror stories Im reading about are mostly people who are jumping off to fast or simply may have other demons learking in their closets, Im partial to detoxing off at 4mgs & she claims that it is not a right choice, as I will be another sad statistic of the readers I hear about becoming so ill that they must go to a ER for help, while she may be correct on jumping off at 4mgs, I dont feel that she is correct about this site, as I told her that I get only positive responses from people on the forum. She wants me to join a group in which I can comunicate one on one, which I understand, but what I dont get is why she thinks this is a negative forum?

[Flutterby111]

I've always wanted to say how sorry I am for all you've had to deal with.....I dont' think we've ever really crossed threads, but I just can't bear the thought....you're so tough for handling what you have....TO rise above the demons of this and find love again......and to try to heal and continue on!   a big ole hug to you!!!!

[Jacqui805]

I was just about to logoff and saw your posts here.  I thought I was gonna get reamed for what I wrote, especially my last post prior to this one on this thread.  I've got your back babe, and I'm sorry for all that's happened to you.  It's important that we all voice our opinions when we need to, and you've got to feel safe and unthreatened to do so.  I'm fairly naive about some stuff myself, but I also believe that most people are good, and honest people.  Like you, and can be like candy, but I can also be a formidable foe when I need to be, so, if we need to go into battle, we're unstoppable.  

[swtbreezie]

All I did was give my views on the councelling thing as everyone else did, I didnt expect to be singled out and beat up for my view like everyone else had a view, I never told them to do it, I said what "I" would do!  The have a mind of their own to go or not to go, and I support them in any decision they make I just don;t have to go to councelling, and if I did it would be grief councelling, I have my NA here and with my wonderful guy, BUT obviously I struck a nerve with you.  I have no problems with you and I feel this thread of singling me out as others feel the friendships and love also is a done deal now!  Don't let the name fool you I am probably older and wiser than most, I can also be toughlovebreezie  BUT I choose to be,
swtbreezie

[swtbreezie]

That was NOT my councellor, I don't have one, you musthave read someone else about councellor not wanting them to come here..  My NA is here on the forum, and with my wonder Fiancee who supports me unconditionally and God of course..  I may sound niave BUT I read people well, you cannot be in tech support that long without being able to know BS when you see it.  Yes I reply but there are some I would NOT meet in church.  I said I am not a stupid person, I am very educated, an a nurse along with that.  I am a very easy person to get along with until my toes are stepped on, and you can't know how niave I am unless you know me in person.  I just am a people person, and the post was just my opinion, of counellors, you can't call in the middle of the night when things are tough, but you can find a friend to share with here.  I don't know where you got that I had a councellor but I never had one.  I went for bereavement councelling a month after I lost hubby and babygirl.  AND you know what they said, it was just after hurricane rita.  "I'm sorry but you do not qualify for assistance, you have NOT been bereaved long enough"  HOW LONG is long enough to be bereaved after you lose 2 loved ones in immediate family and go through devastation of hurricane and losing your home all in a few short months?  NIAVE NO I am not niave.  HA  needless to say I begain looking for support other places, it was a money thing 2 deaths in a month and a half and I was about crazy, and I didnt qualify.  hummmmmmmm  I do not have much faith in paid councellors.  I didnt have mega bucks to pay him, so convieniently I did not qualify.  I looked at him and said well I thought you would say that, BUT if I jumped from a bridge tomorrow bwcause I cannot cope you would say I wish I had helped that lady, I turned and said I am NOT going to give you the satifaction, and walked out and preceeded to go get my baby girl burried 2 months after she passes, I feel that's a pretty strong person to do this all on my own, certainly NOT niave.  SO unless you know just what makes me tick, I am NOT as niave as I sound, easy going yes, make friends easily yes, BUT can hold my own with the toughest ones, and toughest situations.

Thanks Gizzy for your support and views on the friend thing.  hugz
swtbreezie

[jim811]

Hi Everyone...one thing that I didn't see discussed was the choice for anonymity.  As a young professional, I'm working hard on the career, well most days, and if an issue about meds came out, the disclosure could be damaging.  I'm not shy about recovering in the least bit but counseling, NA mtgs, etc are not an option for me at this point. Why...information has a way of coming out....background checks can be very detailed; this is only my opinion...to each his own.  

I think I'm at 37 or 38 days and feel really good....this forum, the people, the feedback and just being able to share the experiences has been vey theraputic (med term :-)). I agree with other posters, most people are honest...I mean why would anyone lie in a forum where noone knows you...

I can honestly say drugs are not an issue; oh.I know I can't take any but I definitlty don't have any cravings...now those cigs...day 12 on those and those cravings are driving me crazy...had a few beers with friends last night and so wanted one, two, three LOL...i stayed on target...

Please Keep Posting....I always apperciate the exchanges here...

Nick

[NautyOne]

My personal opinion regarding your comment to me.  If this is what you told your counselor I would have suggested the same thing.  What you said really kinda scared me.  Please don't take what I am saying the wrong way, but being in the internet meeting greeting for 14 years.  You post sounded very naive to me.  Regardless, the choice is yours, and I agree with the other poster that .......ask her why she does not want you out here.......we can only speculate at this point unless we know what her reasons are.

Nauty...........