Day by day for my addict....

[casper_47]

Suboxone.. Week 3 for my husband.. I so need encouragment to keep going... I thank the people who have replied to me... It took me leaving a 30 year maarriage for my husband to admitt he had a problem and decide to do something about it.. I have so many mixed emotions about this new drug.. Some of you are saying its the best thing thats ever happened and some are saying get him the hell off there..  I only know that after more than 30 years of vicodin to heroin I cant go through another addiction... Please give me the hope I am looking for...love and hope to you all...

[cocobeanlisa]

Boy do I want to give you some hope, but only your
husband know's what's going on with his addiction.

I can tell you that I had a positive experiance with
with suboxone (and I had a big habit), It allowed me 2 things
1. It kept me from going through bad w/d's
2. It gave me time to get a support group and
    go to NA/AA meetings.
For me the biggest part was learning to live without a
drug to hide behind.  It was hard for me mentally.
with suboxone I did not have cravings for the Vikes
so I could concentrate on AA meetings, getting a sponsor
and working the steps.  It sounds like your husband had a pretty
bad habit so maybe suboxone is the way to go for him.  I do
believe that he needs more than that.  He should go to meetings
maybe get a counslor and get a sponsor.  Addiction is more than
just taking the rug.  It's the way we think and behave.

And I am sorry to say that only he can do this.  No matter how
much you love him, he needs to do the work.  For me I was pushed
into recovery by people who loved me (against my will) but
once I got there I saw how much I needed it and wanted it.

So maybe a little push from you would be a great thing.  I would like
to suggest that you check out Alanon.  They are a great support
system for spouses and family.  It would be a great comfort for
you.

My husband is sober for 21 years now and I have gone to
alanon for the support and help.  I know that sounds funny
why would a alcoholic/addict need to go there to understand
another addict/alcoholic.  I learned alot about how I needed
to let go and let him fbe him.  

Hang in there and remember to love yourself.

[broknbck]

I never took the suboxone. But is my understanding that he should be coming off of it by now. It has been being perscribed wrongly by a  lot of doctors and people are going through hell trying to get off of it. worse than the pain killers. it is also addictive and you cannot take it for a long time. I am sorry that this is not very encouraging. But you should  be aware of the facts of suboxone. Ask the doctor when he has planned for your husband to be off of them.

[gizzy32]

hello again. i really don't know enough about suboxone, but i do believe it works for those that want to get clean. obviously he should be taking it after that many years of abuse if it's helping to stay off the pills, but  i believe it's not just some quick fix. i don't think suboxone can fix 30 years of drug abuse, but you said he did attend an N/A meeting so these are positive steps. as long as you see him making an effort than you have hope. no excuses, it's very tough to overcome addiction, very very tough, but if you want it bad enough, it will be done. he is very lucky you have not given up on him already. keep the faith:)