Back surgery

[tooter212]

I just had my L5 S1 fused. I got out of hospital Monday I think. My back is better already and can walk real good this afternoon. But I had,have some more problems. The surgery was 1week ago today. I had the surgery tha 16th They released  me the 18th. Ran a fever the next day and had to go back, came home the 21. I think. The reason they kept me was because of my heart rate. They called in another doctor to treat it plus I hae some kidney stones. We'll I finely get home and the pt came to the house , said I can't sit in recliner all day just in the evenings. Because of support. Well the dinning chaise is uncomfortable. I walk and sit in the recliner anyway.  If it wasn't for that my surgery went great. My main problem is mental! Hubby does not like to take care of people after the crowd leaves. He is great when others are around. I'm going to be able to care for myself it's not like I'm going to be this way forever. I was told not to bend and he will sit watch me try to do things. I know I'm sorry for my self. I'm not taking the hydrocodone like they said . Matter of fact I didn't take any after I got home. The nurse called me today and told me to take it like it said 1 -2 ever 6 hrs. With the cyclobenzaprine.. I've got to get a handle on this depression.

[tooter212]

LOL thanks guys. I told him how it made me feel.. And he just can't see it. It's just I can see the the look of  I want to go out and play and I can't because of you on his face.  We've been married 52 yrs. so I'm used to it. I'll get over it.. Just wish it was different..I don' feel as good today as I did yesterday.. Pain is not to bad blood rate and pressure is up. Took meds so ought to start to feel better soon. I look forward to your posts. God bless you all

[lulu747]

I hate to say it but men can be a little slow and overwhelmed unless we directly ask for what we want.
Example:
Me: "Babe I cannot bend over, lift anything, unload the dishwasher, or cook right now.  I know that's a lot of extras on you but I love you forever and I'll make it all up to you when I'm healed.
Him:  "Lover...Of course!  I will do anything for you.  And if I catch you doing any of these things you are in big TROUBLE.  Go lay down and relax.  I need you healthy.  And you don't owe me anything- your love and beautiful presence is enough".
Keep in mind it took me 3 months to say these things (:
xoxoxo
Lu

[dominosarah]

I too am glad this is over.  Take the time to heal and dont over do it.  Take your meds as directed.  As for your husband i agree with what Vicki said.  I know the one here needs everything spelled for him!!!

Feel better~

[vicki595]

Hi!  I'm glad THIS is over!  Wow! You're doing great!  But take the meds every six hours if it's hurting...

Now listen...about MR.Tooter...tell him what you need and ask for his help. It sounds like he has to be told what to do and what you're needing. Some guys are really bad about being intuitive!  So, begin in the morning..."Can you bring me some coffee"?  That sort of thing...

Keep healing! xo

[Sonrissa]

Hi Tooter,  sounds like you are going pretty well now.  I'm glad you are home, and I hope hubby takes good care of you. Be sure to follow Drs orders and take your pain meds if you need to. I wish you a very speedy recovery. Get lots of rest, your body needs it after surgery. Take care Tooter, you're in my thoughts and prayers!  Hugs!

[lulu747]

Nope not yet.  Talked to my surgeon today and she said she was going to talk to her secretary and the OR and try to get me in next month.  Everything is all haywire there because she was gone for a month.  It was her first day back today.  She knows where I'm at and I've got faith she will make this happen.  It has to happen...Not sure how much longer I can take this.

I'm glad the pain is not that bad but please listen to the docs.  I didn't realize how bad my pain was until I had proper pain control and could eat and sleep for the first time in weeks.
What is up with your husband?  Why are you feeling so alone?
I'm here for you girl.
Hugs,
Lu

[tooter212]

Pain is not that bad. But I'm going to take it like they said. I just feel like I'm on my own. I haven't eat hardly anything so I'm sure when I get to eating better I'll feel better. Hubby is going to bring me a burger home after church
Have you had your surgery yet

[lulu747]

Tooter-

You just had BACK surgery and kidney stones and you aren't taking any pain meds??  Why?  You need to heal and if you are in pain, especially post op- you will not rest and therefore will not heal.

I know it's scary, and I'm in a similar boat- but it can be dangerous.  Seriously.  I landed myself in a very bad medical situation because I was refusing to take my pain meds as prescribed.  You don't want to add on time that it will take to heal.
Can your husband just hold your pills and give them to you as prescribed?
I'm concerned.  You should not suffer- as Vicki says.  Suffering is wrong, especially post op.  NOT GOOD FOR YOUR HEART.

Okay?
xo
Lu