Suboxone

[JLS1012]

My son is currently in a hospital detox. He is addicted to opiate prescription pills. This has been going on for about 4 years. He was prescribed Darvocet for a medical condition. Darvocet was taken off the market and then he went on Vicodin. He has also taken other opiates something oxyicodone. When I called the detox unit today they told me he was on suboxone but would not get a script for it. He has no job or source of income. He is in the process of a divorce and is very depressed. I called about getting him in a program for suboxone but was informed that all doctors in our area are not accepting patients. Only one and it would take a month and the dr does not accept Medicaid or the Access card in PA. I am so afraid he is going to start again. He is also prescribed Xanax and takes the 90 pills within 2 days. What am I going to do? I'm on the verge of bankrupcy because he hasn't worked and lives in my rental property which is on the same lot. So I am close to him but he becomes abusive and threatens me that if I don't give him money or get pills from the Dr. he will kill himself. I don't know what to expect when he gets out. I wished that they put him in rehab. Can anyone offer me advice? I am so nervous. Ilost my job 2 years ago and my unemployment benefits will run out.

[OpenMind24hours]

I'm a father and have walked in your shoes. And I know how you feel, they are our children.

Mom, about all you can do is allow your son to be exactly who he is. He needs to experience the consequences of his actions. Those consequences just might be the catalyst to help him get better. And, he'll do this on his own. You have to admit, you're up against the wall. There is nowhere to turn anymore.  I've been where you are with my daughter. And it wasn't until she was backed up against the wall, in pain, with nowhere to turn that she actually found her OWN way to treatment, then she actually joined NA and became clean and sober. With the exception of a month, she's been clean, sober and a productive member of society for 9 years now. The addict is the person to make the decision to get better not us. Until we realize this and "allow" it to happen, it will never happen.

One of the more serious definitions of codependency:
"I am not aware of how I feel; I am aware of how You feel."

As for you mom; it's time to get your life back. You have a life. If you're like i was, I woke up in the morning and my daughter's life was on my mind, not my life. Sometimes we need to let it all go. That doesn't mean we can't love that person anymore. It means that we will feel the relief that comes when we stop denying reality and begin accepting. Tough love is the only thing that will help your son quickly get to what he perceives is the rock bottom. Why not give it a try, has anything else worked. I've learned what I just told you by attending Al-anon meetings.(I'm also an addict in recovery) There are also communities on this site that cover the subject of living with addicted loved-ones.

[toothfairie]

i will def say prayers for you and your son tonight....as for all of us here and out there searching for help.....hopefully you can find some peace and resolution in this situation....please keep posting!!  hopefully someone on here has some better answers for you!!  stay strong for him!!  we are all in this together!!  

[GANeedHelpMarie]

Please see what my doctor in Boca Raton says about Suboxone. It is so much more addictive than opiates if taken for more than 3 weeks, and not under a knowledgable doctor.  His name is Dr. Steven Scanlan.  I did 11 days of inpatient hospital detox.    I was released on Subs, then Did 3 weeks of rehab.  Soon I had to do a second inpatient rehab.  Then 2 plus weeks of rehab.  You can't afford and it will be terrible for your son!  I don't think many Suboxone doctors understand, so it is good if u can't go there.  Pls don't be deceived.  I am now 20 days off Ativan.  I have been changed to Librium and detoxed.  I think u should run to Al-Anon meetings or this relationship with your son will kill both of u.  I need to take that advice too bc I am torn up over my step-children's relationships with my husband, his indulgence of them, and my interactions with my nuclear family.  This is hard business.  Hugs, Marie

[JLS1012]

Thank you for your advise. Unfortunately there are no free programs for Suboxone in PA. I called DEATS and they provided me with names of doctors but none are free. I am so afraid of what's going to happen when he comes home. When he was 21 years old he wouldn't even take the pain pills prescribed after a dental procedure. What happened to my beautiful, loving son? His wife always put her family first and he was last. She left him for a convicted crack dealer who she states has changed. She allows this guy who had a child with her 1st cousin to sleep in her bed. My son's 4 year daughter comes in in the middle of the night and crawls in bed with them. I can understand why my son is so depressed. Thank you for your information. Please pray for my son and me. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

[toothfairie]

so sorry to hear you are going thru this!!  our children are our world and when they hurt we hurt....i'm not sure what PA has to offer as far as programs....maybe call local hospitals to see if there is any free programs available??  sorry i can't be more help but hopefully more people with info on this will post...keep checking back and the people here are fantastic!!  this is a great support system here!!  it has saved me for the past 4 days!!  keep watching for posts!!