If its gotten past that then there's nothing you can do but put him in rehab because obviously he doesn't respect you and your wishes. Play the tough love card, if he doesn't respect you don't respect him.
The thing about the drug test is that he is in probation so he had to do "random drug test" by court, the last test we did was bc of the info I received and I wanted to see if he was using other things like opiates, my son sneeks out of the house, he has parties at our house when we are at work with 40 to 50 teenagers drugs and alchool involved of course, he uses weed in front of his 2 11 year sisters in the house or he try and my daughter call me he treats us like s***** all the time all the time we have tried the nice way the therapy way the psychologist way and nothing, what other thing can I do?
getting drugs in jail/prison is pretty easy.
your son is still young enough to help him. dont just give up and leave it up to him to "decide". a person under the influence of drugs is not capable of making a rational decision about what is best for him...especially a 17 year old.
your son needs rehab...not jail.!.!.! sticking him into jail is NOT going to help...and he will probably come out a different person than he went in...not for the good either.
Thanks I know that it dosen't matter what you provide for them and it is a disease is maybe my fault I probably gave him that disease I know I did God I really hate my self for all that I have done
I'm 16 going on 17 and have the same situation at home although not nearly to the extreme as your family. My parents found out about that i smoke weed and drink occasionally and flipped out (still don't know about the pills I take every now and then), though i continue to do it because I don't see it as a problem. The key to making him stop is not to bully him into quitting until the last resort. If you bully from the start it'll make him want to resist your wishes even more and it'll probably get worse. He probably continues to do it either because he's addicted (time for rehab, hopefully consensual) or he doesn't know the full extent of what will happen to him with constant usage. You need to change his mindset and tell him what will happen to him and support it with facts. I hate to say this but the constant drug tests have to go or else he'll will completely stray away an lie to you to avoid the drug tests. You have talk to him about how you can fix this problem TOGETHER. Don't be angry if he strays now and again but be understanding and help him through it. Instead of popping a drug test on him give him a vague idea of when it is so it won't be parents v. kids. If you try to be understanding a keep an open mind it should work though slowly and surely. After all this and its still to the point where its detrimental to his health, you'll have no other choice but to send him to rehab so he can get the bad side of drugs first hand.
Sorry its a bit long but i'd thought you'd like to see it from closer to your son's point of view - Draco
I just got a call from his probation officer and I told her that he is not following any of the rules and that he is out of the house and she said she is putting a warrant for his arrest today, so if the police get him they will take him to jail ughh, I really hate this