Life gets harder after drugs

[stilltrying1965]

I would like to tell ya all somthing, my life is getting harder after getting clean. I dont know why but things seem to be different. They are making me feel like im all alone in this fight im in. Things area lot more difficult than i thoght they wou ld be by that i mean i find my personal life is not going to well.Meand Kim used to be so close and so in love but the drugs have destroyed that. And withot Kim well im nothing with Kim i was everything so the drgs destroyed that thet destroyed my marrage. Im trying hard to salvage my marrage i need Kim and wont be able to live mylife without her. Did druge end yo realashonship as they are destroying mine James.  PS can a marrage survive after 13 years of drg abuse im praying it can

[vicki595]

Hey Handsome...This isn't like you!!   It's like you and Kim have done a 180 degree
turn!   This tells me something happened and Kim is upset with you.
So,what gives?  Be honest,you know you are among friends here...

Vicki  xo

[SophieShine]

I'm very confused here James.... what happened? Why did you decide to move out of the house?

James don't let your past eat you like it does, do something about it, therapy, meetings, what ever works for you but don't let it drag you down anymore, it destroyed enough don't you think? Most of us have crazy stories, hideous, but you have to reverse it...
Please James talk to us, let us help you.
Sending you tons of hugs. Sophie.

[avisg]

Ok where are you James? I want you to be 100% honest here are you using at all anything ?
You too can work threw this .You need to work on you right now .I know this is the hardest thing you have ever done .I believe if you stay on track and off the drugs you two can do it .It wont be easy but remember the best things in life are not easy to obtain.Are you still seeing the counselor?

[LeaAnn807]

James, avisg is right.  Don't give anyone the power to take your future!  Those people did some bad things to you, and it's a disgrace, but let God punish them.  You move on and be happy.  That will be the very best thing you can do for yourself.  I know that you love Kim.  That's obvious.  But you can't put that kind of responsibility on another person.  Happiness comes from the inside!  Both of you have to work your OWN recovery....not eachother's!  Ok?  

Where is Kim?  Please keep posting and don't go away again like the other day.  We were worried about you!!!!! : )

[stilltrying1965]

I have been ot the house and i choose not to go back till we can sort or lioves ot or it will stay like this and i will move ot for good thanks for answering Avis. ,,,,,  James

[avisg]

I understand you have a painful past james I had one as well some pretty awful things happened to me .Thats one of the reasons I see a therpist .Here is the thing the people that hurt you took away your childhood you are still giving them the power to take away everything in your life thats good you have to stop that .You have to live for yourself and love yourself before anyone else can love you .You are expecting Kim to take on everthing almost like a parent to you . Your happniness has to come from the inside show her you can stand on your own and do for yourself and love yourself .That way you two can care for each other and work as partners .
Why have you only seen her 2 times this week did she leave or is she visting her mom ?