HOW FAR WILL YOU GO..

[rocky147]

I FEEL LIKE GETTING THING IN THE OPEN IS THE FIRST THING I NEED TO DO.
I STARTED POSTING YESTERDAY ON HERE AND WANT TO THANK EVERYONE FOR THE REPLIES AND SUPPORT ITS NICE TO HAVE THIS  FORUM. I MAY BE ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES IN TEXAS I DID PAPERWORK YESTERDAY AND MAY HAVE GOTTEN INTO A STATE BED AT A DETOX REHAB. YOU KNOW IT AMAZES ME IM 39 AND LET MY LIFE GET TO THIS POINT, I DONT KNOW WHAT IM GOIN TO DO AFTER REHAB THO, MY WIFE AND EVERYONE WILL BE HERE WAITING ON ME WHEN I GET CLEAN AND START MY NEW LIFE. THE PROBLEM I HAVE IS MY WIFE AND EVERYONE AROUND AND I KNOW DOES THEM ALSO BUT THEY DONT WANT OFF THEM. IM NOT GOING TO BASH MY WIFE, I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND BECAUSE SHE HAS SEEN THE WAY OUR LIFE HAS SPIRALED OUT OF CONTROL, HOW DO I APPROACH IT? OR DO I ?..I HAVE MY OWN ISSUES THAT I HAVE AND WANT FIXED AND WILL NEVER GET THIS WAY AGAIN BUT BEING AROUND THE MEDS IS GOIN TO BE THE WORSE TEMPTATION,

[justneedtotalk]

Congrats on the rehab bed.....When you get to the program they will help you with your wife issues.  Remember that for the program to work, you have to follow directions and listen to what ever they suggest.  Sobriety is an individual process and you cannot control another person's action or thoughts.....You can only control/worry about your own.  You are taking a huge step and weither you realize it now or not, you are truly saving your life!  Again, good luck in treatment, don't fight the system, and listen to what they have to say.....They know what they are talking about!

[minn66]

I'm glad you found a place to detox and that you have made the choice to quit. You and your wife are in different places right now. It would be great if she could see your determination and success and be motivated to stop too. As hard as it may be, I agree with others in that you may need to find somewhere to stay for a while. We are so vulnerable in the early stages of recovery and being around people who still use would challenge anyone. Also plan on some form of aftercare. It really makes a difference. You don't have to choose NA, there are lots of different types out there.

Best of luck. Of course, please keep posting and we'll help you through it any way we can :)

[amaria]

Oh, I feel ya. I'm moving back home smack in the tail end of coming off opiates, only to stay at my mom's for a month while I look for a house. Mind you both mom and stepdad are on my DOC-oxycodone! They are prescribed and both have real reason to be on it, and they don't abuse. I have set up a few strategys to overcome this disposition. I notice for me, when I plan, and arent blindsided, I dont get knocked down too easily. I agree with everyone else too. Plan, use your time wisely. We are stronger than the drug, only when we apply our strength. I believe you will do this. :)

[akitagurl12]

Hi. I am in a similar situation, kinda.  My biggest trigger is my workplace.  Not only do I get my pills from someone there, but there are others who do too.  Everyday I have to still be around it.  I can't quit this job until I find something else, so I was forced to deal with this trigger from the very beginning.  It is still very hard some days, but I am managing.  I agree with Gnarly, really use your time in rehab to figure things out for when you get out and have to go back to your home. Thank you for posting and I am really proud of you for making this decision to quit:)

[gnarly_1]

hi it great you got into a rehab use your time wisely there it s u c k s your wife dont want to get clean this is going to make it difficult for you to stay clean with it all around you.......you may need to find a place to stay for a wile this is a toxic relationship and one that yuor sure to fall back into using fidrt rule you must change all persons places and things that remind you of using this includes spouses so you got some tuff disioins ahead of you good luck and God bless.........Gnarly