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ScaredMom17
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I just found out my 23 year old son is addicted to Klonopin. He is getting it from a hard core drug dealer. He is stealing from me and lying, complains of headaches, and he can't stop binge eating. He says his arms are numb, his speech is slurred and he walks like a drunk. This is the most devastation I have ever had in my life, I don't know what to dol I want to get him help but he has to want to be helped. By reading all these posts, it sounds hopeless. Is this a death sentence for him? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I just found out my 23 year old son is addicted to Klonopin. He is getting it from a hard core drug dealer. He is stealing from me and lying, complains of headaches, and he can't stop binge eating. He says his arms are numb, his speech is slurred and he walks like a drunk. This is the most devastation I have ever had in my life, I don't know what to dol I want to get him help but he has to want to be helped. By reading all these posts, it sounds hopeless. Is this a death sentence for him? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I'm not sure if I'm doing this right, I'm a nervous wreck, and I don't have the patience to figure this posting thing out. Yes, my son lives with me, also his girlfriend and their 16mo old daughter. This makes things quite complicated. His g/f confirmed the addiction to me and has told me horror stories that no mother wants to hear. She is very open with me (not a drug user) and we are trying to get him to get help, you are right, only if he wants it, I can't force him. This is hell...either he hits rock bottom, which is my fear, also I don't want him arrested or anything like that, I am so scared, this is unbelievable, I keep thinking I'm going to wake up from this nightmare but I'm not. Yes, you are right 99% of what he says are lies, I could ask him what he ate for dinner and he would lie, because that is his whole life, lying, lying, and more lying.....it is hurtful beyond words. I'm so glad I found this site, I thank you all for sharing with me, I will keep checking back, I've got to figure something out.
Hi I just wanted to bump your post back up so you could see the responses from yesterday and this morning.
Welcome to the forum. I am sorry for what you are experiencing now, I truly understand. My daughter is 21 yrs.old and an oxy addict. Well oxy, and any other drug you want to throw in there as well......but the oxy is by far the most damaging and devestating for her and her family.
Everyone has different opinions on how to support a child addicted to drugs, I can only share my experience. The mantra of many is you must let them hit bottom or they won't get help until they want it. I think many people have completely different "hitting bottoms", my daugher quit college, quit a great job, was physically and psychialogically very sick, moods became a person I didn't know, and her actions to support her habit were amoral, my opinion, she was at rock bottom.
I made a decision I would do anything in my power to help her, because she was truly dying in front of my eyes. My mantra was I will not lose my child to drug addiction.
I took her to phychiatrists, addiction councelors, tried to help her w/d at home, drug tested, armed my self with all knowlege, attend Al-Anon meetings (they are a great support) and a councelor for myself.......and pretty much made myself crazy in the process!! I will be completely honest with you, it is truly one of the hardest experiences of my life. I tried to talk her into in-patient treatment and that took months. She finally completed a program a week ago today.....but this is a long road, and she is just at the begining of her recovery. The mental addiction is huge!
I would take your son to a doc for a physical exam to see if all of his symptoms are related to his addiction, and if he is possibly taking more drugs than what he has told you. My girl finally told me about the oxy, but she left out 3 or 4 other drugs she was also regularly abusing.
If your son is open to treatment, and that is a finacial option, admit him as quickly as possible. And it may take more than one trip. My daughter left the first treatment center after 5 days, this program she completed and I know (trust me the one thing you can depend on, 99% of what they tell you addicted is a blatant lie) she is more committed to this program than she has been to anything for a very long time.
I am sharing with you my story and what I did, and as I said earlier, others don't agree, and that is okay with me. I wasn't, won't, and will not lose my beautiful intelligent daughter to the hideous cycle of drug addiction. I will do everything in my power to support her road to recovery. And as hard as this journey has been, I have the same belief and determination today as I did a year ago.
Please check into Al-Anon, they are a great support group. I would also recommend a councelor that you can talk with that is unbiased, and is there to support you. You will need support.
Please send me a message and let me know if there is any way I can help you, even if you just need someone to listen, I understand. Most importantly, please know we are all unique individuals and there is no one apprroach that is the wrong or right way. I have relied on that age old "a mother's instint" a lot!
There should be some other moms on soon to share their experiences. Take good care of yourself , and don't over look your own needs.
My thoughts are with you and your son.
Everyone has different opinions on how to support a child addicted to drugs, I can only share my experience. The mantra of many is you must let them hit bottom or they won't get help until they want it. I think many people have completely different "hitting bottoms", my daugher quit college, quit a great job, was physically and psychialogically very sick, moods became a person I didn't know, and her actions to support her habit were amoral, my opinion, she was at rock bottom.
I made a decision I would do anything in my power to help her, because she was truly dying in front of my eyes. My mantra was I will not lose my child to drug addiction.
I took her to phychiatrists, addiction councelors, tried to help her w/d at home, drug tested, armed my self with all knowlege, attend Al-Anon meetings (they are a great support) and a councelor for myself.......and pretty much made myself crazy in the process!! I will be completely honest with you, it is truly one of the hardest experiences of my life. I tried to talk her into in-patient treatment and that took months. She finally completed a program a week ago today.....but this is a long road, and she is just at the begining of her recovery. The mental addiction is huge!
I would take your son to a doc for a physical exam to see if all of his symptoms are related to his addiction, and if he is possibly taking more drugs than what he has told you. My girl finally told me about the oxy, but she left out 3 or 4 other drugs she was also regularly abusing.
If your son is open to treatment, and that is a finacial option, admit him as quickly as possible. And it may take more than one trip. My daughter left the first treatment center after 5 days, this program she completed and I know (trust me the one thing you can depend on, 99% of what they tell you addicted is a blatant lie) she is more committed to this program than she has been to anything for a very long time.
I am sharing with you my story and what I did, and as I said earlier, others don't agree, and that is okay with me. I wasn't, won't, and will not lose my beautiful intelligent daughter to the hideous cycle of drug addiction. I will do everything in my power to support her road to recovery. And as hard as this journey has been, I have the same belief and determination today as I did a year ago.
Please check into Al-Anon, they are a great support group. I would also recommend a councelor that you can talk with that is unbiased, and is there to support you. You will need support.
Please send me a message and let me know if there is any way I can help you, even if you just need someone to listen, I understand. Most importantly, please know we are all unique individuals and there is no one apprroach that is the wrong or right way. I have relied on that age old "a mother's instint" a lot!
There should be some other moms on soon to share their experiences. Take good care of yourself , and don't over look your own needs.
My thoughts are with you and your son.
I sent a PM (private message) to a Mother that is a member here to help her adult child and asked her to reply or PM you...it's possible it will be tomorrow before she is able to get to you. But please be patient. We are all here to help and we are all one big family.
Have a good evening!
JoAnn
Have a good evening!
JoAnn
Welcome to the forum! You will find much support and information here.
Do you know how much your son is taking per day? I take Klonopin as RX'd by my doctor daily. I do know you can't stop it cold turkey...that can be very dangerous and cause seizures.
The 1st thing you need to find out is if he wants help or not? Does he live with you?
There are other parents on here who's adult children are addicts and they will be able to give you more advice than I can. Stick around...they possibly have gone to bed. You will get support here though!
Glad you found us!
JoAnn
Do you know how much your son is taking per day? I take Klonopin as RX'd by my doctor daily. I do know you can't stop it cold turkey...that can be very dangerous and cause seizures.
The 1st thing you need to find out is if he wants help or not? Does he live with you?
There are other parents on here who's adult children are addicts and they will be able to give you more advice than I can. Stick around...they possibly have gone to bed. You will get support here though!
Glad you found us!
JoAnn
I am glad u posted here so people can see it and help...no benzo addiction experience myself i just know that they have to be tapered...does ur son want to quit?
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