Son relapsed after 7 years free of heroin

[corey411]

Hi, I am an old time user of MedHelp. I was on here for years and most of you probably don't know me. My son who was in recovery for over 7 years relapsed and I am having a lot of difficulty handling it. I know the ropes. I am getting a pfa from him on Monday. I called him on his addiction 2 days ago and have been getting nothing but harassing texts and phone messages from him. He is saying things to me that are so horrible that I can't even listen to his messages. I know its the heroin talking. but its killing me. I feel like I have been kicked in the gut. He is texting everyone and telling them about my former addiction and is threatening to call my job. He had my other son who lives in Canada convinced that I was using again. He believed him until I texted him a picture of the needles, empty heroin packs and crack pipes. I feel like I just wanna go away and not think anymore. I hope I am strong enough for this. I really need support.

[10356]

Hi Corey
Geez I'm so sorry to read this.. You know that the rehab and the clean time was not wasted on your son, all that info is in there It is hard to come back from relapse but we do Cory I will be sending a prayer that he does sooner.. You tell his son the truth. His addiction does not make him any less a man it makes him sick, emotionally spirituality physically.. You are Strong enough my friend You are clean you are in a good place, as far as telling everyone We are not afraid to say I'm a addict yes. Your work would have to prove it. Call me Cory if you want to talk I will charge my phone as soon as I'm done writing this :) I wish I can say it will be ok but I can say You can get thru this You have too.. sending love my friend. lesa

[corey411]

Thanks Toothfarie<3

[corey411]

Thanks Sarah, I know the drill and I know not to enable. My strategy worked last time......Help slam him down to rock bottom ASAP. My grandkids are heartbroken. Em remembers the last time well even though she was a little girl. Zack doesn't really remember and how do you explain this to a 10 year old that sees his dad as a hero. Ill get through this...I have learned to be strong over the years. And the fact that it is for his good helps.  I haven't listened to the messages he sent but read a few texts. This will help me get a restraining order. I never got that bizzare on pills. I know addiction is addiction and I did things I wouldn't have but I never hurt my family like this,,,,I think I woulda seen that as rock bottom.

[toothfairie]

Hi Corey....i'm so sorry you are going thru this....it's hard when it's our children...we want to do everything for them...but i'm sure you know he has to want this for himself first....my prayers will be with you in this fight....i'm sort of a new comer...been here since last Nov....take care of yourself as well..

wishing you peace and clarity in this difficult time.

[corey411]

Hi Addict, I remember you. Thank you for your response. I know from NA meetings that when someone with that much clean time goes out again it's harder to come back.  I already lost 1 son to cancer. This is hard. I wish I could build a cell in the basement and lock him up. Last time I put him in jail and he got clean after that...had a lot of rehab and said me putting him in jail saved his life. I just hope he hits bottom fast. I will do anything to put him there. He is such a good son. This is really hard. Thanks, and glad your still here. I keep in touch with a lot of oldtimers on Facebook....no one seems to be there now though Thanks again. Corey

[addict3]

Sorry to hear about your son relapsing. Our addictions are really strong. Stay strong for your family.

I am a longtimer also and I remember you, there are others here also that you should recall.

You have to take care of you. Don't forget that. I pray re comes around before it gets to late.