This is for my fellow taperers or low low dosage users out there

[all_alone1]

Please don't feel like you are alone or making a wrong choice by tapering or still taking that last little bit.....I know that most if not almost all on here have taken the route to go CT instead of tapering because of temptation but they suffer a lot for a long time and for good reason all the damage that was done.....

Tapering is much easier on the body therefore much healthy way in my opinion which this is by the way so don't anyone get all bunched up

I just wanted to post this for one a lot of people out there are intemidated by some of the post because of the choice they are making and get scared off and don't want to post anymore....I know that is how I felt when I went back to tapering....the come telling the truth of what and how much they are taking and looking for support....there is absolutely nothing wrong with tough love but we need to be careful of our choice of words for some individuals are very sensitive......and this help forum is for eveyone so please try not to scare anyone away you never know what is behind the computer screen I will give you a short to the point true story

One of my husbands college professors told him that he had a student come after class to talk to him everyday for a week and each of those days told the student he was busy with another student to make an appointment to talk with him....well that following Monday the student show up for class and the next few days after that....the teacher finally asked the class if they heard anything from this particular student...one of the classmates told him she commite suicide over the weekend.....POINT see what happens for not listening or pusing someone away cuz it doesn't seem important.

So with that said please all my fellow taperers or low dosage users or just anybody woh needs to talk I am here and please message me or post and I will respond...we have come this far please don't let comments discourage you.

Thanks for listening or should I say reading lol
Everyone please take care

[bmdad]

I'm sorry that she feels her choice is not being respected. It is her choice so it most definitely should be respected!

People come to a forum for advice. All anyone can do is read through all the advice and use what they feel is best for them. She shouldn't feel disrespected just because someone told her to go cold turkey because it worked for them. I bet over 90% of addicts aren't able to taper but that still leaves quite a few that are able to. Just because ct worked for one doesn't mean it's the best choice for all.

My opinion for tapering is to give it a try but the second you veer off that taper, flush them and go ct. It's all too easy to talk ourselves into taking one extra for today because we have this or that going on. It normally ends up being an everyday thing though. But, if you are able to stick to that taper then I feel that is the way to go. I've tapered in the past and got through with little to no withdrawal. It takes so much discipline which is normally something us addicts don't have. Later on down the road I wasn't able to taper and had to bite the bullet. We have to remember that everyone is at different stages of addiction and they might not be in so deep to where they aren't able to make a taper work.

We are all after the same goal and that's what's important. As long as we all reach that goal who cares which route somebody takes.

Please tell your friend to take what advice she needs and leave the rest. On an open forum there's always going to be things that tick us off and leave us feeling disrespected. You just have to read over everything, evaluate the responses and use what's best for you. Leave what you think is negative and only worry about the wealth of support that is here. No matter what thread somebody reads, there's always going to be some advice that someone else doesn't agree with. All that matters is she accomplishes the goals she is after and we will all be here to help her by offering advice that worked for us. But, in the end it is her choice and everyone should respect that. If her her taper is working and she's sticking to it then that's all that really matters right now.




Brian

[lulu747]

HI Angelina...
I see your point and perhaps I missed the thread of which you speak....
Ultimately, we're here to support one another through one of the most difficult things there is for a human being to go through...And we can only speak from our own experiences. Brian made an excellent point about the addict's brain...And as this is a substance abuse forum a lot of the members with clean time are aware of the tricks that it plays and are only trying to help by calling attention to them....I don't think it's meant as judgement-only to bring awareness.
I think there are enough people on this forum who have done it both ways (like myself) and are just offering their opinion, hope, and support.  The great thing about this forum is that you get all kinds of experiences and perspectives...I think everyone is just doing the best that they can with the knowledge that they have and it almost always comes from a place of compassion and love....
Awesome work on the taper girl....Proud of you....Lu

[dominosarah]

Noone here should have to feel they are not being respected for their choice to taper.  The goal is to get off the meds safely.

[all_alone1]

Thank you bmdad for your comment....a dear friend of mine on here has confided in me that she has been told by several individuals to jump or go cold turkey and I sure they mean no harm but she feels her choice is not being respected......I will let her futrther explain if she chooses

[bmdad]

If tapering works for someone, that's great! Sure, ct is often recommended because most addicts don't have the discipline to taper. I've seen it on here many many times where someone decides to taper and they end up cheating. An addicts brain has a way of tricking someone by telling them that it's okay to take one extra today and then take one less tomorrow and that pattern continues. If we could control our how many we take we wouldn't be where we are it in the first place. But, not saying that it's that way for everyone. In my opinion, tapering is the right way to go about it if an addict has the willpower. When someone comes on here asking for support I always let them know that tapering is an option and worth a try. Most on here let them know that it's an option. I can't say I have seen posts where other members won't offer support because someone chooses to taper. Maybe I missed the posts where someone wasn't accepted because of their choice to taper. If someone decides to give tapering a try, great! If someone decides to go ct, that's great too! What works for one may not work another. I agree that tapering is an excellent option and should be considered. In my opinion, many of us don't have the willpower or discipline to taper but doesn't mean they shouldn't give it a try and definitely shouldn't be ignored which I can't say I see happening. The support is here no matter which route someone decides to take.

[all_alone1]

ohhh no no free ride thinker here just wanted to encourage other who haven't CT and are still working at it....or think to....or wanting to.....to post.....because almost every post is from someone who is clean(congrats.. you rock),,,,or who has gone CT (congrats for hainging in there)but hardly from any who are working hard on their tapers or hard to drop that little bit....even if you haven't moved but haved stayed down away from the dose you used to take....well that is a acomplishment...

That is all I am trying to say