trying to help

[bjnmc]

Ok I am here not because I have a problem but I have a sister n law and also a dear friend who has been hiding her addiction for a while. We have been trying to figure out what has been wrong with her for the past few months and she tell us nothing. She swore to us she wasn't taking anything and she thought she has us fooled but We knew In our hearts that she wasn't being honest. Well We invadedher privacy and found pills so she came clean. Now I think the world of this lady and it has crushed my heart. She has a 4 year old lil boy and three older kids. We have started detox at home 3 days ago and she Is sick but is doing great. My question is. Do you think she really wants help or just saying she does because she was busted?

[dominosarah]

I am really happy to hear you are all being so supportive of her.  That is really important to have that.  Using is just a symptom of what is really going on with her.  After the physical part of wd's stop the mental part kicks in.  She may notice her body aching real bad or is in pain.  That is rebound pain and will go away.  That is one of the games our brain will play with us.  Usually cravings will start after the wd's also and they can be brutal.  She will be tired as usually there is lack of sleep and her energy levels will be down.  Have her get up and move around as much as she can.  We need to get our natural endorphins working again.  

Make sure she is drinking plenty of fluids.  Gatorade is good.  If she isnt eating very well get her some Ensure.  Keep us posted.

[bjnmc]

She does not get them from a Dr. She has been buying them in the streets. My brother did go talk to a family Dr / friend. He suggested We take her off slowly. But she says that she hasn't had an urge for one and I know its still early. I do know that she went to her brother a couple of days ago and told him that she wanted stop but didn't know how. She was scared her husband was going to leave her if she told him what she had been doing. But he has been very supportive through this. I really in my heart think that she don't want this life that she had been hiding. She just made a mistake. But as far as after detox. What comes next?

[hmf099]

Maybe you could give her this site so she has a place to talk. Unless she really wants to stop this won't last, but if she does you can help her find resources like AA/NA to help her stay clean if she wants to. Stopping the pills is only part of it, the psychological part has to be treated as well.

[dominosarah]

Time will tell if she is serious about this.  Forcing this on someone doesnt usually work very long if the person isnt ready.  Is she willing to get some recovery care?  Does she get these from the doctor?  If she has, does the doctor know?