help for my son

[jsmom718]

Hi All, I have been reading many of the posts here. I stumbled across this forum while searching for something else but so happy that I did. My son (21) has recently admitted to me (although I knew for a couple years) that he is addicted to Oxycontin. I just don't know how many ml a day he is taking. His life recently spiraled out of control and he is left to almost nothing now. I thank God for that because now he wants to change. Basically the only way to go from here is up.
Anyhow, he wants to get off the drugs. He has planned that he is going to stay at my house during his WD because he cannot hang out with his friends during that time. His plan is to use Methadone for a few days. He states he needs someone to regulate the dosage so that he is not tempted to take more than the recommended dosage. I am nervous about it because I don't know what to expect. Is he going to get violent with me? Are the chances of him getting addicted to Methadone too great? Many posts have helped ease some of my anxiety about this but anything you can offer would be great. I have also noted some alternatives in this forum to Methadone. What do you think? Thanks for your help

[jsmom718]

Again, the prayers are so greatly welcomed and appreciated. Sometimes tough love is easy when you have had enough but it is more difficult right now because I have so much emotional involvement in the recovery effort. I do understand and am aware this is how the loved ones are conned. This, I understand is a con. I didn't understand that he could con me to get help :)

[vicki595]

Oh...i feel so bad here..  I know this is tearing you apart.   It hurts us,too,believe me.

He is not a bad kid...he's a sick kid...

Keep posting to us...

Does the local hospital have a detox unit?  You could call there and ask. Many hospitals have them now...

[freenclean]

this addiction will make you do things in your wildest dreams you never thought you would its the devil and he is very strong but our god is stronger just believe and he will show you how much he can really bench press for you many prayers Free...

[vicki595]

What he's telling you about the methadone is just wrong. It is a potent opiate and is actually prescribed for pain in some situations. It's different chemically from oxy but they all have those differences. Add a hydrogen and you get a different type of drug but it's still an opiate.

One thing we didn't bring up about withdrawals :  A good mindset makes a huge difference.  When you go into unplanned withdrawal it's always worse because you didn't plan it that way.  It's 80% mental is what I'm trying to say.  

Personally,I think if he went to your house now he'd be fine. Sick but okay...being close to his mother might make a huge difference even though he doesn't know it right now.

I hope he calls you back to pick him up.  But,most likely someone will take pity on him
and give him something.

[jsmom718]

vicki, that is what he is saying. He has called me back but he is sick and doesn't want me to pick him up. He states this is not his plan, his plan is for Monday and he can't do this. He wont agree to treatment either right now because he has a plan and that was not part of it. Anyway, I am sure you all know exactly where he is. It is horrible for me. He literally states that he cannot go cold turkey, he will go crazy if he doesn't kill himself.
I found one place that would take him for 72 hours if he is threatening to kill himself but how do I even do that if he is unwilling to go?

[jsmom718]

I am staying strong saying no but wondering if it is ok because I did hear that they can go into siezures and heart failure. I only found the one center that will detox and it is an hour away from my house. A long trip if he is unwilling.............
just got a text from him "clearly you don't want to follow my plan so forget it, I'm not quitting and I don't need your help".
I am so emotionally wasted and understand this is the drug talking. I just don't want to hurt anything. Please keep those prayers coming