help for my son

[jsmom718]

Hi All, I have been reading many of the posts here. I stumbled across this forum while searching for something else but so happy that I did. My son (21) has recently admitted to me (although I knew for a couple years) that he is addicted to Oxycontin. I just don't know how many ml a day he is taking. His life recently spiraled out of control and he is left to almost nothing now. I thank God for that because now he wants to change. Basically the only way to go from here is up.
Anyhow, he wants to get off the drugs. He has planned that he is going to stay at my house during his WD because he cannot hang out with his friends during that time. His plan is to use Methadone for a few days. He states he needs someone to regulate the dosage so that he is not tempted to take more than the recommended dosage. I am nervous about it because I don't know what to expect. Is he going to get violent with me? Are the chances of him getting addicted to Methadone too great? Many posts have helped ease some of my anxiety about this but anything you can offer would be great. I have also noted some alternatives in this forum to Methadone. What do you think? Thanks for your help

[dominosarah]

I am really happy the girlfriends parents are aware of what is going on.  Keep your chin up!!  Let us know how things are tomorrow........sara

[vicki595]

I hope it's soon,too.  It's going to come to a head very soon,I have a feeling...  It's
desperation time for them. He didn't get much for the golf clubs,I'm sure. So,the money won't last long...
Now, I know you can't think too far ahead so I'll suggest you get a doctor lined up. I'm
sure there's not a doctor that he sees but maybe he can see you're doctor.  Not to make and appt. just yet, but ask if your doctor would see him. A doctor helps in these
situations for medical evaluation. Plus there are some good meds that can be prescribed when he does finally decide to get clean.  Just get some ducks in a row...

I hope you can get some sleep tonight. You need to keep up your strength...

V.  xo

[jsmom718]

Thanks again Vicki,
It is sad but the sadest part is watching it unfold. I knew for a long time they had a problem but I never saw them coming down or was involved in the drama on that end because they were keeping everything from me for the most part. I have mourned my son for 2 years because he really changed, so the thing I am most sad about is now knowing how bad it really is. I am hoping that all this drama and now her family getting involved as well will mean that this is coming to a head now and we can finally see the light at the end of all this. Thank you so much for keeping us in your prayers. It is not over yet :) and i know it can and will get better one day. I just hope that day is real soon

[vicki595]

This is actually great to hear. Now that her family is on board, you can all work together.

I know how sad this must be for you but I'm here to tell you it CAN get better!!  Please
keep your spirits up and your faith. You're in our prayers again tonight...

Vicki  xo

[jsmom718]

Hi again,
Well he will probably be ok for tonight as he came by my house to pick up his golf clubs to pawn. Surprised he had anything left. But he should get enough to keep my phone quiet for tonight. I need to regroup, so I can think clearly again. This has been terribly emotional for me and way worse than it would be I think if he were at my house detoxing-or lets say in a different way anyway. There was just so much more involved. I did get a phone call for the first time from his girlfriends family (she's also addicted) who finally asked what is going on. They, as we, knew too but did not have any details of their situation  until now. I told them she needs help. They now want to work together to get both of them help. This is good because I knew if she didn't get help, it would be hard for my son to stay clean (I also know they probably shouldn't be together anymore at all-the only thing is that they were so perfect together before this, both beautiful, intelligent, social people who had everything under control before the addiction and lost everything). So we will see how that plays out. I will keep you posted.

[vicki595]

Hi...Glad you posted~

This is sure tough !!  I'm trying to think here...You know, if he's a danger to others or to himself you can intervene but i"m not sure who you call to get to the right agency!!
Here's the thing: He's unraveling now...sounds like he's in a rage. When people get that way they get very,very desperate.  If you make a call to say the police and tell them this situation,there is something they can do. They'll pick him up and deliver him to the closest place(where they handle this sort of thing in your area).  If this were me(and I have a 19 yr old) I would intervene now.  He's getting too desperate and sick. His frustration MAY cause him to become psychotic...I wouldn't want to wait for that. I'm not sure what he would do really...he might rob someone etc...I don't mean to be dramatic but desperate people do desperate things and I've seen this happen...
What do you think??