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Wife has taken new step into drinking
Ok, I thought I would post this here as most of the posts are old and just needed somewhere to talk. My wife and I have been married for 15 years and she has drank alot during the whole time we have been married, but never to the length of what it has become recently.
She only drinks wine and beer, but will never stop at just one drink, if the wine bottle opens the first glass will be a normal 8oz then the next is double, and the next the whole glass ( and this is not a small wine glass) until the bottle is gone. Beer is the same way, open one drink it, then the next time its 2 beers in one big glass, until its 7 - 8 in one sitting.
lately she has been buying 2 32oz beers on friday and drinking between the time she gets home 3pm and the time I get home 5- 5:30 then drinking 2 or 3 more. The reason I know what she has been doing is we have 12 year old son and 9 year old daughter who go with her everywhere, they tell me what she buys.
Over the last 2 weeks she has slowed down on the beer and wine, and she started carrying around a big jug called a "bubba keg" which hold almost 40 oz of liquid, she said she is trying to start drink more water and less soda, and she has clear liquid with ice in it.
Well I should have known that it was not just water, last night night I was looking for some cables in my wifes and my closet and found hidden, two vokda bottle, one empty and the other half empty. So this is her drinking more "water" it really scares me as this is a new step into drinking as she never touched hard liquor before. I don't know what to do.
Thanks for listen
She only drinks wine and beer, but will never stop at just one drink, if the wine bottle opens the first glass will be a normal 8oz then the next is double, and the next the whole glass ( and this is not a small wine glass) until the bottle is gone. Beer is the same way, open one drink it, then the next time its 2 beers in one big glass, until its 7 - 8 in one sitting.
lately she has been buying 2 32oz beers on friday and drinking between the time she gets home 3pm and the time I get home 5- 5:30 then drinking 2 or 3 more. The reason I know what she has been doing is we have 12 year old son and 9 year old daughter who go with her everywhere, they tell me what she buys.
Over the last 2 weeks she has slowed down on the beer and wine, and she started carrying around a big jug called a "bubba keg" which hold almost 40 oz of liquid, she said she is trying to start drink more water and less soda, and she has clear liquid with ice in it.
Well I should have known that it was not just water, last night night I was looking for some cables in my wifes and my closet and found hidden, two vokda bottle, one empty and the other half empty. So this is her drinking more "water" it really scares me as this is a new step into drinking as she never touched hard liquor before. I don't know what to do.
Thanks for listen
I wanted to know then... But now i know. So... That`s the difference.
I am full of contradictions. That`s who I am. And if you have a problem with that, why are you talking with me at all? Ignore me.
I don`t think no one understands me, but I think every person is individual and can`t relate to others completely.
What the hell did I do to make you take a look at yourself?
On the other hand, every person should be thinking about their attitude during the life. That`s how we spread our mind.
And if i wanted to, i could make you question yourself because you do the same to me even if I said i want to be left alone... In my every little sentence you manage to find some flaw. I got impression you are trying to show me you are better then me and that I`m complete failure comparing to you. So, no offense, but f*ck off. I don`t like you anymore.
I am going to defend myself now. I`m in the mood. And I AM contradicting myself again... I would leave this subject to rest, but you obviously have something to say all the time. And I, obviously, always have an answer.
And can we put this discussion somewhere else if you have something else to say? I think this is not the place.
I am full of contradictions. That`s who I am. And if you have a problem with that, why are you talking with me at all? Ignore me.
I don`t think no one understands me, but I think every person is individual and can`t relate to others completely.
What the hell did I do to make you take a look at yourself?
On the other hand, every person should be thinking about their attitude during the life. That`s how we spread our mind.
And if i wanted to, i could make you question yourself because you do the same to me even if I said i want to be left alone... In my every little sentence you manage to find some flaw. I got impression you are trying to show me you are better then me and that I`m complete failure comparing to you. So, no offense, but f*ck off. I don`t like you anymore.
I am going to defend myself now. I`m in the mood. And I AM contradicting myself again... I would leave this subject to rest, but you obviously have something to say all the time. And I, obviously, always have an answer.
And can we put this discussion somewhere else if you have something else to say? I think this is not the place.
COMMUNITY LEADER
for someone who doesn't enjoy THIS type of discussion u have posted a zillion times discussing it!U r a cyber posting contradiction!there was a good program on PBS 2 weeks ago.......about the 12 steps of AA...and they were interviewing sober alcoholics who each have a different interpretation of how they work the steps..Each of them said when they were active in their addiction they had what is known as The King Baby Syndrome!"oh wahhhhhh no one understands me,the world revolves around me......don't u dare confront me and make me take a look at myself...i chuckled cuz i used to be King Baby...and sometimes in my head can go there...but i look at all the pain and problems in this world and my internal wahhhhhhhing is so stupid if i died tomorrow the world would go on minus me.....maybe someday u will see ur own and correct what needs to be corrected!
To:ibizan
OK, thanks...
Maybe it won`t work, but for now, I`m feeling great. I haven`t enjoy in music so much and now I`m so passionate about it.
I`m anxious only at night, my parents have asked me if i would like to have a beer, I said no, and everything is just perfect... I`m not worried or scared at all... It`s like I`m on LSD the whole time...
I know I`m running away... That`s the way I do it. I think I should enjoy as much as I can now and I don`t enjoy this kind of discussions, and i see it as the waste of time.
To: all
After all, this is not my, then somebody else`s(nitro`s) discussion... So, I don`t want to waste his space anymore...
Best wishes to all of you...
OK, thanks...
Maybe it won`t work, but for now, I`m feeling great. I haven`t enjoy in music so much and now I`m so passionate about it.
I`m anxious only at night, my parents have asked me if i would like to have a beer, I said no, and everything is just perfect... I`m not worried or scared at all... It`s like I`m on LSD the whole time...
I know I`m running away... That`s the way I do it. I think I should enjoy as much as I can now and I don`t enjoy this kind of discussions, and i see it as the waste of time.
To: all
After all, this is not my, then somebody else`s(nitro`s) discussion... So, I don`t want to waste his space anymore...
Best wishes to all of you...
COMMUNITY LEADER
I'm glad to see you've taken some steps to address ur alcohol issue....u have made some good points.....and so have we.....the BIG thing about recovery is ur fellow comrades can confront u when needed and u take it as constructive feedback and do not run......not a one of us here have done it alone...and in time u will see that will not work for u.A moderator should get back 2 u soon about deleting ur account!
To:dominosarah
Thanks, I really appreciate that...
Surprisingly, I feel just fine doing it on my own. This few days were really amazing even without alcohol. That is why i didn`t want to talk to you. Too much thinking makes me depressed. And i don`t want to be depressed because then I won`t succeed in this.
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To:ibizan
i know he is talking about his wife, but he didn`t tell us what was happening in detail. And maybe she wants to get help.
i "self pity" myself because i predict your reaction, and that`s my way of defending myself.
Actually, I think i made some good points. And my personal experience can help someone to see what is like. Or my objective aspect...
I`m not saying I`m right whole the time. But I believe viewing situation from different position can only help... And I have a right to express my opinion too.
But I won`t. Because "arguing" with you is pointless, and it doesn`t help me at all. It fills me with negative energy. Your approach doesn`t suit me.
Anyways, I appreciate your honesty...
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P.S. I sent request for deleting my account. When will that happen?
Thanks, I really appreciate that...
Surprisingly, I feel just fine doing it on my own. This few days were really amazing even without alcohol. That is why i didn`t want to talk to you. Too much thinking makes me depressed. And i don`t want to be depressed because then I won`t succeed in this.
___________________________________________________________________
To:ibizan
i know he is talking about his wife, but he didn`t tell us what was happening in detail. And maybe she wants to get help.
i "self pity" myself because i predict your reaction, and that`s my way of defending myself.
Actually, I think i made some good points. And my personal experience can help someone to see what is like. Or my objective aspect...
I`m not saying I`m right whole the time. But I believe viewing situation from different position can only help... And I have a right to express my opinion too.
But I won`t. Because "arguing" with you is pointless, and it doesn`t help me at all. It fills me with negative energy. Your approach doesn`t suit me.
Anyways, I appreciate your honesty...
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P.S. I sent request for deleting my account. When will that happen?
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