anxiety attack after my husband masturbates me.

[Jaam2018]

After some foreplay when ive climaxed with my husband masturbating me i get a really bad anxiety attack that he is going to get his fingers stuck..i feel like i cant breath and my body tenses up..it happens every single time now and has been going on for years but just feels worse ..anyone know whats wrong or experiences it themselve.  

[Hernany5]

I also don't like fingering,but just talk to him about it,ive encountered many women who dont like it,but most men think its fun when we cry, they think its because of good feeling but its the opposite .talk to your partner about it,most guys are very poor in it

[Paxiled]

I agree that young men aren't necessarily that good at it, but you do learn over time.  I've also learned that you're right that some women really don't much like this kind of thing.  In this case, however, she's reaching orgasm, so I'm guessing it's something she likes until after the orgasm.  

[specialmom]

In all sincerity, why not find another way for him to pleasure you?  If ultimately, his fingering you makes you have anxiety, find something different to do.  There are lots of way to receive sexual pleasure and fingering certainly is not essential to it.  So, ask him to do something else.  But it would be unusual that this was the only anxious moment/panic attack situation you had.  Where else is anxiety affecting your life (as this has a simple solution).  good luck

[Paxiled]

This is a bit confusing factually.  You masturbate when you do it yourself, so I guess you're talking about your husband using his hand.  But if he knows what he's doing, and since you're reaching orgasm it appears he does, you do know he's not putting his hand inside you, right?  At least, I don't think he is.  He's probably stimulating your clitoris, which isn't way inside that way.  Right?  Anxiety attacks are very odd things -- people can become phobic about just about anything.  Some people also find the excited breathing and the physical reactions to sex mimic what an anxiety attack feel like to them -- do you experience anxiety attacks about anything else?  At any rate, if it is anxiety, and this seems to be from something you enjoy, it could be anything from the deep breathing to guilt from some early sexual teaching you got.  A psychologist might be able to help you deal with this if it's truly mental anxiety, but again, do other things make you anxious?  Are you a generally anxious person or is it just this?  Because if it's really just this it is possible it's from the physical reaction you have to it that might be causing it -- either way you can probably learn to relax with it.  Best of luck.