Well, since you are tuned into it, you should gain weight. Eating healthy is the most important thing. Light snacks along with good solid meals sounds like a good plan. I know I feel better when I get proper lean protein. I found this low sugar peanut butter and eat that with celery sticks for a pick me up. Things like that. How is your sleep?
Oh my gosh, we are twins. :>) That was definitely me regarding work and little ones. But here is the good news . . . the kids get older and that part gets easier. I am being totally honest in that you will have plenty of time to work without that overwhelmed feeling (as much) once your kids are around 5 or older. When I was in the stage you are in, I was always very low on energy. I had PLENTY of nutrients but not enough sleep or me time. I say this and mean it, you have to take some time for you. Down time in which you are not kid responsible. I did two things--- I had once a week a baby sitter. For about 4 hours. I got out of the house. It was the best money I ever spent. All by myself to go to the store, the mall, the gym, for a walk, etc. If I didn't have the baby sitter, I had mother's helpers which are kids (often girls) around age 11 to 12 who aren't full fledge baby sitters yet but who would come over, I'd pay them 2 dollars an hour and they'd stay for 1 or 2 and I'd hide out. Yep, upstairs in my room, door closed ignoring all sound from below. (you have to get out of site or the idea of you time is ruined by the mothers helper and your kidlets hanging on you). The second thing I did was enlist my husband. And he was reluctant. He was intimidated by the kids as he had little kid experience and he also worked all week. But I forced the issue. Either Saturday or Sunday afternoon for a good chunk of time, HE was totally in charge. When my two boys were toddles, they would leave the house and go do things. Which was awesome because I'd clean. Which doesn't sound fun but it got it done and I wasn't as stressed during the week. The other option is to take a room a day to clean thoroughly on a schedule and always do the family pick up game in the evening--- put on music, set a timer for 15 minutes and everyone picks up! Amazed at what all gets put away and how better the house feels after (plus teaching good habits to little ones). Anyway, those are just some of my recharging your battery suggestions which helps so much. I can't tell you
You are definitely thin! Wowie, not sure of your height but you sound underweight. Work on that! Breast feeding takes it all out of you. AND your hormones are definitely shifting around right now after child birth, breast feeding, etc.
So, hang in there. This is a tough time on moms. hugs.
Thank you everyone for your responses. I feel like I'm stuck not knowing what to do. I just left my job to see if this will make a difference on how I'm feeling. The problem is that I want to work but I'm finding it very overwhelming to be "super mom" and have a full time job. I've been a single mother most of the last 6 years of becoming a mom. I'm now back with the father but do not get much help and he works a full time job as a concrete worker from 5am until 6pm. I've also worn a 24 hour halter monitor to check my heart and the Dr said it came back better than hia probably did. The crazy part is I had no symptoms at all while I wore it except for very mild and as soon as it came off the symptoms were back. I'm also very underweight my normal weight is around 94 pounds and after breast feeding my daughter and not eating nearly enough Im down to 86 pounds and breastfed for 3 months. I have at high metabolism and have have thyroid checked and numerous other blood work and all came back fine except for I had a bit of anemia which they said after a 2nd check up came back better. I've had many things that lead me to believe it's anxiety as when I get really panicky and come on here and read others stories who are experiencing similar to me it calms me down quite a bit. I still feel as though something is triggering the anxiety that may be simple to fix but that the Dr is overlooking. I'm constantly having a heavy head kind of headache feeling when I'm not feeling anxious. I'm seeing a counselor but don't feel as though she's right for anxiety as she mainly has me talk to her about my life and doesn't really give much feedback or give much advice. I've seen 2 different Dr's for this and not many answers have been given. I just want to feel back to myself as I don't feel like me anymore the happy go lucky energetic person I was before this all came into play
Hi, I am a 37 year old mother of 2 & I experience a lot of your same symptoms. I suffer from extreme health anxiety. I have been suffering from various forms of heart palpitations & have recently been to see a Cardiologist. I am awaiting a 30 day event monitor to arrive in the mail to hopefully capture some of these scary spells I am having. I will feel a fluttering in my chest & I will feel weak as water when it occurs. It’s like my muscles go limp or something although I can still use them. If that makes sense. Very scary & strange feeling. I’m so sorry I do not have any advice for you... just wanted to say you’re not alone. Prayers for you!
To the poster, I understand where you are at in life. I hope you come back. You can private message me. I've been in your shoes. Not going back to work is not avoiding life. lol. It's not locking yourself in your home as someone who has agoraphobia. That is not what I was suggesting. I had a rich and full and CONNECTED life as a stay at home mom and avoided nothing but stress so I could care for my family. Again, totally optional and maybe not applicable at all to your situation.but conversations get streamlined and side tracked here. I just wanted to let you know that I understand and am happy to talk with you. hugs
Just because a doctor said it wasn't potassium doesn't mean you don't have an electrolyte problem. You can tell by eating foods that are high in electrolytes, such as bananas and apples and green leafy veggies. Do you stay hydrated? But assuming this isn't the problem, what you're describing sounds pretty much like what happened to me when I first got my panic attack disorder -- that's how I felt. All my tests came back normal even in the middle of a panic attack -- was at work when i got one in my early days of developing agoraphobia and there was a nurse at work who told me not only did I not test for anything out of the ordinary but my blood pressure and heart rate were actually a bit slow, just where you'd expect them to be for someone lie me who exercised regularly and meditated every day. Didn't stop me from getting an anxiety disorder, so there you go. You should always rule out nutritional problems or other health problems that might be at play, such as thyroid, blood sugar, hormones, etc., before concluding you are developing an anxiety problem, but if it is anxiety, I'd get with a therapist who specializes in treatment of anxiety sooner rather than later. As for the suggestion of not working and staying home, that's for you to decide, but if you do this because of anxiety that's avoidance and it can make the anxiety problem worse. I speak from experience in that regard.
Ahh, I'm so sorry! I think after being home with our babes and then going back to work, women go through a lot. And I bet you still have a lot on your plate at home. You probably have all the child care and organizing and running of things for the kiddos, still in charge of the house, food, etc. being a working mom is a 24/7 job! And sleep can be hard to come by. And you own YOU time or any down time at all that we all need to recharge our batteries.
You do sound depressed and anxious. Please talk to your doctor about it. That is treatable. But hard as you probably don't have any time to spare for doctors and therapy and exercise and meditation, etc. I barely had tine to shower when my kiddos were toddlers.
Is working for you essential right now? Just asking. It is for many. But if you did better prior to having to go back to work, it may just not be a good time for you to juggle so much. hugs