Anxiety or depresion

[SarahL02]

I lost a parent a few months ago. I stayed at the hospital with them and watched them suffer before  passing. During this time I lost sleep, and felt helpless. I  feel like they are in a better place now and am at peace, with this. But afterwards I am left feeling anxiety, depresion or something. I sometimes feel like I would like to run away for a week by myself and no one bother me, or feel overwelmed that I am going to do something as simple as cook dinner. Things I may plan to do seem like a chore or hurdle to jump. I am not or never have been on any medication, and am trying to get better without any.  

[SarahL02]

Thank you for your answers. I have lost loved ones before. I know what grief is like. I am a christian and I believe my dad is in heaven. So I don't have problems there.  I have questioned myself alot about choices I had to make. My husband says God was in control not me, but just to watch what he went through when I would decide yes do what you can do for him, was sometimes heartbreaking to me.  This just has been a little different, maybe like post-traumatic stress. I have lost grandparents and lost my mother in 1985.  The one thing that was very different is I had to decide things for him and them watch him suffer for it.  He went in for surgery removing cancer on his kidney, had a heart attack, went in a coma. Dad didn't have a living wilI and I would suggest everyone do. I had to decide to either let him go, or the doctors remove fluid that did lead to him coming out of the coma. Dad went in to get better and maybe have a few more years of life. So,  I then let them do heart surgery when he got a little stronger, and he got better for awhile, but then later his organs just started shutting down.  I was able to visit and talk with Dad and when he startd getting worse he asked me to pray for mercy that he had a better place to go. At this point I was able to say no more interventiion.  Also, at this point a doctor talked with me, and said you haven't done anything wrong  but at this point we have started doing to your Dad instead of for him. They never tried to remove fluid again, all though it did come up, and Dad just continued to shut down and he passed away.  It was time to let Dad go, and I know that. It was good to have moments with Dad again and family members see him, but I felt like it was at a very painfull cost to him.

[mammo]

I'm so sorry to hear this, losing a parent is very difficult.  It sounds like you are depressed, but only a qualified physician can tell you for sure. But who wouldn't be right after losing a parent, this is a huge loss.  Even though you know they are in a better place, you miss them.  See a psychiatrist and discuss what route of treatment is best for you, therapy, medication or both. You've dealt with a lot, you may just need some help to get you beyond this point.  Big hugs to you, and take care.

[GettingOlder]

You are feeling post-traumatic stress. I strongly suggest you see a doctor and at least get something mild to calm you down. You also might want to check around for self help groups that deal with grieving and loss. Best wishes!

[compnet]

Anxiety and depression can come from a magnesium deficiency.

Both the B Complex Vitamins and Magnesium are essential to handling stress.

Some of the safer and more effective forms of magensium include: Taurate, Glycinate, and Citrate (latter can be laxitative, so take with food).

You should find it calms you, energizes, and helps you handle life more easily.

God bless you.