Anxiety ruining happy day

[jojoc37]

Hi All, My problem is i have 10 weeks to try and control my anxiety, im getting married on the 8th of Aug and although this should be a time when im looking forward to it im not, i have been fainting/ seizures for over 20 years now but in the last 18 months they have got worse and more frequent, i am in the process of having lots of tests but they obviously take time, my state of mind now is that anywhere i go i think im going to faint so have not been going out, more so i think im going to faint in the middle of getting married, its driving me slowly mad, any suggestions of how i can overcome this would be great, thanks jo

[jojoc37]

Hi remar, Im sure that my family and friends will stay but dont think the minister will, i feel so negative and really need to stop thinking i am going to faint but its so hard not to as i actually do faint, i havent been out of the house in 2 months in fear that i will faint in public, but the longer i leave it i know the worse it will get, jo

[remar]

that sounds wonderful! these 30 people are your family and closest friends so if you do pass out don't you think that they will be completely understanding? if you need time to recover i'm sure they will stay until the ceremony is finished. remar

[jojoc37]

Yes i totally agree on the small wedding we are getting married in small intimate place with a little chapel and our accomodation right next door we have only invited family and close friends 30 people in total, i am just so scared of fainting and ruining everything, we have had it booked for 2 years, jo

[remar]

congrats on your your upcoming wedding! is there anyway you can have a small wedding with family and a few friends? that might take some of the pressure off. can you have the wedding at your parents or a friends home? it might be more comfortable for you and make you feel safer. this is your day and you should have no worries. take the pressure off yourself. the important thing is that your getting married to the man you love, you two are the only ones that matter on that day. remar

[jojoc37]

Hi to you both and thanks for replying, the doctor things i may have reflex anoxic seizures, which is my blood pressure suddenly drops and so do i, but untill i have had all the tests he cant be certain so cant start treating me, its not as simple as if i faint then its just one of those things because while i faint i lose bladder control it takes me at least half an hour to come out of it properly so obviously cant get up off the floor and i also sleep for at least 2 hours after, so as you can understand it will really ruin the day, unless i faint after the i do,s i need a way to try and control my fear of fainting cos i agree worrying about it makes it worse, thanks for listening,  jo

[RubyWitch]

What has been causing you to faint and have seizures for over 20 years?
I'm very happy to hear that you are having tests done and I hope that has included a very thorough medical work up. That these events have increased MIGHT be due to the up and coming wedding, but I think putting the pressure on yourself to get your anxiety under control in the next 10 weeks is going to rebound on you.
I would strongly urge you to reschedule another appt. with your doc when your test results are in and discuss, at length, your concerns. Since this fear is now causing you to avoid going out, then it is affecting your quality of life and you need to do something about it now.
I wish you the best and please let us know how you're doing, OK?
Peace
Greenlydia

[thepenguin]

My best advice is this:  
Lots of people faint on their wedding day.  Groomsmen faint, bridesmaids faint, brides faint, grooms faint.  If you faint, it's not the end of the world, and it will actually be something to laugh about down the road.  I suggest not fighting the fear but, instead, accepting that if you faint, well, it doesn't really matter all that much in the grand scheme of things.  That said, you probably won't faint - but, if you do, it's really OK.