Then it wasn't the right therapist. You're blaming external events for your anxiety, which we all do, but it's the way you think that's the problem. And only solving that problem will solve the problem. A good one will also know relaxation techniques to teach you. That's the place to start. If it doesn't work, meaning you can't find a therapist who can help despite trying different things such as hypnosis, CBT, and the like, then you'll know therapy isn't going to work for you.
Not on therapy right now but was before however it was not helpful...
You don't mention being in therapy.