Anxious about future event

[Beewoman]

My husband is going away for 5 days on a business trip.  I am so anxious about coping during his absence that I am becoming all anxious about it!  We have 3 children and I rely on him alot in the morning to help me out as all three children go to three different schools, 2 school buses, lunch boxes etc.  He knows I never feel great in the morning as I wake up with that hot nerve ending feeling in my arms and legs and I know it's only anxiety.

My question to any of you out there is, has anyone stressed out about a future event and has found a good technique of dealing with it before it happens?  I cannot seem to get over worrying about it and it seems to be negatively affecting me one week prior to him actually going.

I know it sounds completely crazy and I can normally reason with myself but I am feeling particularly down at the moment and just daily routine is such an effort, in fact things in general seem to have lost there color.  

FYI I am not on any medication, I am borderline hasimoto's hypothyroid, my ob/gyn has put me on progestin for the past 3 months and my anxiety is better but I am feeling down.....

Would love to be normal again, my anxiety re-emerged after 20 years of "peace" last summer and it has been ups and downs ever since!

Sorry for my ramblings but any help and support is always appreciated.

[heartfluttersflyawayplz]

i have the same thing i start thinking what if something happens and hes not here by my side, even when we go out of town i worry because my drs are here and am somewhere elsa i look for cabins or hotels that are close to hospitals so i feel more secure. am better now and not on meds either .

can you get a friend/or a teen ager that helps keep kids when ya go out to come stay with you and help you out , and that will give you someone at night to talk to also. thats what ive done and it worked out great. if not am sure you will be fine make lunches at night lay clothes out and lay rules down that this has to run smooth , plus reward them after its over if they helped you out and did some of it own there own.

[Beewoman]

Thanks to all three of you for your support.
You are right, of course, thinking ahead will only make it worse unless I can imagine everything going fine, kind of visualize what will happen in a positive way and that should take the stress off now.
I liked the idea of the rota and will certainly do that today so it's ready for things to tick off once they are done, that way I will feel more positive about them as they happen and it will avoid forgetting anything!

I'm going to go with the flow!

[Caveman24]

When I go out of town or when my wife goes out of town I get very anxious usually the day before because, I am trying to predict the future and all I can imagine is something bad happening and it drives me insane. All I know to tell you is live it day to day go with the flow and stay positive everything is going to be fine.

[silverberg]

try visuallizing everyday (take some time to yourself) and say whats the worst that can happen? and visuallize yourself getting up in the morning and doing the morning duties, I use this allot. visualize what your goning to do the next day and walk through it in your minds eye.

[MrGreen]

Future events can be worrying things for anxiety sufferers. It is their norm to think ahead of time. Create an image in their heads of what things are going to be like and how they won't be able to cope. There is no magic sollution. Really we have to try and think about here and now. Because the more we worry about tomorrow the more stress and anxiety that will build up. It is only when it is over that we can look back and ask ourselves why we got so wound up. When nothing bad happens at all. A suggestion. Can you make out a rota of sorts. Like a timetable of what you have to do and when you have to do it? Plan ahead for the five days. Stick to that plan. Just an idea. Or maybe write out what exactly you imagine might go wrong and why? Look how you handled such a situation in the past. To show yourself that you could handle the situation before and there is no reason why you can't handle it again. I know it is easy for me to write these words. I have no kids. No wife. So, dare I say no stress, brought on by similar situations. Maybe another member, with kids, might have a better answer. Just hope all goes well for you. And you can see that it is not as bad as you imagined it would be.