Breaking down.

[lil_misss23]

I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I fell pregnant while on the pill and my partner hasn't taken it well at all. We had talked about kids but not yet and he just keeps saying its not the right time. I understand completely where he's coming from. I was booked in for a termination but pulled out. It didn't feel right. My partner has been away for two weeks and I've just fallin apart. To make it worse he's not talking to me. I know he needs time and space but he's on the other side of the country. Its so hard. I'm sleeping 2 to 4 hours a night. I'm not eating much, maybe one meal a day at lunch time and even then I have to force myself. I just don't feel like eating and the thought makes me sick. I can't stop crying. I broke down at work and they sent me home. If I'm not at work I'm sitting on the couch. I know these pregnancy hormones are prob making everything worse.  I feel like I'm at the end of the road. I don't know which way to turn and I don't know what I'm supposed to do.

[mammo]

I know this is hard, but stand up for yourself and your baby. You've done absolutely nothing wrong, and if he is mad because you didn't terminate the pregnancy "for convenience"....he's got issues.  So many people have a baby before they had planned to, or when they thought they had all they wanted but this doesn't mean you don't love it.  You should be angry at him for acting so selfish right now.  He's "in this" whether he likes it or not, it's time he be a man and a father.  If he is going to pout and ignore you, then it's time you take control and tell him how you feel and what you think of his actions.  I hope he sees the light and you two can raise your baby together, if not....this may be a blessing in disguise.  What would your future be like with a man who acts like this when you need him most? Remind him that he is the other half of this and you didn't accomplish it on your own.  I also got pregnant on the pill while I had a 2 year old and  4 month old baby boys.....this pregnancy gave me my daughter who is  still very much a blessing.  Be true to yourself and things will always work out the way they should.

[lil_misss23]

Thank you. It means alot to read your comment. I just feel like giving up. So I don't have to deal with anything. My bf is home in two. As much as I can't wait to see him I'm terrified. Although he was away for work, I feel that him ignoring me is his way of telling me he isn't in this. I feel like I know what's gonna happen when I pick him up from the airport. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions but it hurts so much. I can't stop crying and then I get angry because I know all this can't be good for the baby. I just want to wake up tomorrow and everything be ok.

[mammo]

If your partner didn't want a baby he should have protected himself as well.  Don't allow him to convince you to terminate your pregnancy because YOU are the one who will have to live with this for the rest of your life.  He has financial obligations in providing for the baby whether he likes it or not and you need to pursue this.  Pull in your friends and family for support on this, it's amazing how a baby can pull families together.  I don't think your partner is much of a man for running out on you at this time...he is just as responsible!  Let him know your plans and that you will pursue getting your baby what is due to him/her.  Maybe once he sees that you are keeping the baby and he will have to be responsible, he may come to his senses.  If you don't want to keep the baby or abort it, there are many loving families that would love to have your baby.  Take a deep breath and make a list of what you want and need to do so you can take control of your situation.  I feel so bad for you and wish you all the best.  We're always here for you if you need to talk.......hugs