HIV anxiety

[Stingray1871]

Worried. I have gingivitis. I recently made out with a girl perceived to have hiv. She isn't on meds so her viral load is sky high. I didn't know she was positive until after the fact. The problem is that I experienced ars symptoms 12 days after the exposure. Ie: sore throat, headache, stuffy nose, raised rash on neck and chest, also thigh and leg pains. I can't tell if I had a solid fever. However, I did feel heat flashes or burning sensations in the face and ears.

My issue is I talked to an hiv doctor at ucsf. The doctor told me there was a tremendous risk for infection with gingivitis or bleeding gums. Also wrote: You said you had gingivitis at time of exposure.  People with gingivitis typically have a small amount of chronic gum bleeding which is a potential route of transmission.  What if your partner also had gingivitis too?

I can only find one documented case of hiv being transmitted in this manner. My worry is because my gums bleed when I brush. Now I'm paranoid. Why did this dr tell me there was a significant risk.

Did I experience ars? Do I need to test?

[Stingray1871]

I'm so worried. I feel like I can taste blood in my gums all the time. I'm so convinced I'm going to be the second person in history to get hiv from deep kissing. I've ruined the rest of my life. Worst of all I have lost the one women I truly loved because of a stupid kissing incident.

[Stingray1871]

Just confirming. There is no way you can get hiv from kissing even if I did have open bleeding gums and the girl I kissed had them as we'll.

We are 110% positive hiv cannot transfer in this manner?

[Stingray1871]

I sure hope your right. I pray my test comes out negative. I'm so scared of hearing the possibility of getting positive results. Like I said. I wouldn't be as afraid of the symptoms hadn't appeared thereafter.

[nursegirl6572]

Here's a thread from the doctor's forum, read it, it will hopefully put your mind at ease:

http://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---Prevention/french-kissing/show/1620518

There are many more threads that discuss your concern.  Search the forum for more answers.

You didn't have a risk and don't need testing, but as I said, you may be inclined to test to help ease your mind and prove to yourself that you didn't get infected.

[nursegirl6572]

You didn't have a risk.  Kissing is not a risk, even with the presence of bleeding gums, ulcers, etc.  As for the "symptoms", TRUE ARS is comprised of very basic common symptoms that can be attributed to countless other things.  One can NEVER gauge a risk or assess their HIV status based on symptoms.

[Stingray1871]

There wasn't any sex involved. No cloths ever came off. There was only deep kissing.