Help, I feel like Im going crazy!

[Kelleyte]

I am engaged to be married and over the past six months I have developed the fear that he is going to leave me, to the point that I have almost driven him away.  I constantly think that he is dating someone else or cheating on me and ask him daily if he loves me and if he still wants to marry me.  He spends most nights on the couch downstairs and we hardly ever make love any more.  I cant stand myself and I have embarrased him continually in front of his friends by getting overly emotional and either yelling at him or crying.  What can I do.  I have been taking Prozac and Adderall, but I am thinking that its time for me to try Lexapro of Zoloft.  Do you know if there is an issue with taking Lexapro and Adderall?  I started taking Adderall because I was unable to concentrate at my work so I dont want to stop taking it.

[silverberg]

Well if your taking meds, I would hope you are seeing a therapist about your issues, believe me I have found that when we worry about a spouse or sig. other cheating or leaving us, IT IS OUR OWN issues of cheating or insecurity in self. I would talk to your doctor and work on these issues, as for myself, I believe I have to trust, unless I can put a chip in his head and track him 24/7, but would that be love? or trust?

IF you are putting on a ring for Marriage, Domestic Parnership or Friendship, One must have  LOVE & TRUST.  when you have this the anxiety has no more power! good luck, Hope you work these issues b4 marriage, why bring unwanted baggage into a marriage.

[Caveman24]

I can't answer your question about the meds but as for your personal issues I had the same problem with my wife except I was thinking she was cheating on me to the point that I developed some of these anxiety issues. I have since learned that you have to trust your partner and even though you tell yourself you do you have to be able to trust him without thinking about it just like breathing it just has to be there. If you can do that then maybe you can get off some of those meds. Good Luck