I get nervous around women

[GordoScooby]

How can I overcome my nervousness?  I want to have a gf, but I have no idea what to do.  I'm 28 and I have never had a gf.  I was also diagnosed as bipolar and schizophrenic 5 years ago, and that has pretty much crushed my confidence.  But, I wasn't a playa before my mental disorder though.  I want to start a family one day and everything, but if I'm nervous and not confident, how will that ever happen?  Also, I need a job too if this will ever happen.  I notice that women like guys with money.

[Paxiled]

Almost everyone is nervous about romance.  It's scary, it can end, it can succeed, you can be rejected.  But really, all life is dicey.  It's okay to be nervous with a woman -- the right one will probably find it endearing.  But really, we're all like that, some are just better at hiding it or facing it.  It's just who you are.

[refills]

Hey Gordo.  Oh yeah sometimes our confidence can be a little shaken, especially around the opposite sex. Anxiety sufferers kinda stay in the background as you probably already know. Sometimes we overcompensate, this is usually not good. We are what we are. Until you learn ways of dealing with the problems associated with anxiety you might find meeting new people of all types difficult to do. Reach your hand out and ask for help. It's all around you. Look up meetings and support groups in your area that you can join. Read up on the topic or maybe try out a therapist or a psychiatrist.    You sound like a nice guy. Once you gain confidence that's all you really need. I know it's hard but overcoming your fears is very important. You don't want to be paralyzed your whole life by fear of the unknown. Keep posting would love to talk to you more.Good Luck....ike

[GordoScooby]

I stopped taking the meds.  I just didn't want to deal with those stuff, I wanted to sleep on my own.  It was really hard to do and even today, my sleep is so so.  Sometimes I can sleep really well, sometimes not so well.  But, I feel better overall.  I took zyprexa mostly for my psychosis, but i tried others before, but didn't help much.  I am very thankful for the help zyprexa did to help bring me back to sanity, even though it made me super fat and crushed my confidence.  

[mulder86]

also yeah girls do like guys with money,
its because consciously or subconsciously, money gives a statistically higher chance to a luxuriouss, less painful and even longer life.

i believe that for every guy there's a girl though,
and even though not every guy gets to be with a supermodel that has the sweetest heart (and not every supermodel has a kind heart),

if you put yourself out there,
be the best version of yourself,
don't try to copy others behavior too much,
you will probably encounter one or several girls that will be kind to you.

accept who you are,
love yourself, be kind to others... this is the way.
god speed my friend

[mulder86]

how do you react to benzodiazepines?
does it cause you to become mentally unstable?

if not, you could consider doing Oxazepam once or twice a week (in doses not above 20mg), if your doctors agrees with this.

I'm a lifelong anxiety suffer, and have recently used oxazepam the first two days of school to break the ice, and it works wonders.
you make a good relaxed first impression on people, and they treat me nice afterwards - even while sober.

Be careful, if you use oxazepam in higher doses or more often it will lead to an increase in anxiety and eventually severe withdrawal symptoms.
I find oxazepam does not produce a "high" so it's less likely to be abused,
but it does fix anxiety like 80% which is enough for me to handle situations which I would deem too tough otherwise.

[charlston123456]

Just b urself n b confident you will find a woman dat loves you for who u r just b patient it does take time

[charlston123456]

Just b urself n b confident about you will find a woman dat loves you for who u r just b patient it does take time