I don't know "if any has figured it out," but I do know that people learn to cope with it and significantly reduce the anxiety. Remar is correct. Therapy can be very beneficial; however it seems that your anxiety level is excessive. You may want to obtain a psychiatric evaluation. You may need some medication temporarily to calm the racing thoughts. It can be difficult to remain focused in a therapy session when you are easily distracted. Stress can lead to both physical and mental issues. Excessive stress can lead to anxiety, in which excessive anxiety can lead to panic attacks, which can lead to phobias (ie. agoraphobia). It is important that you make some lifestyle changes.
I'm sure you can find some support groups in your community for anxiety that are normally free of charge. Go to NMHA.ORG, or NAMI.ORG and read some educational material/ obtain support groups in your area.
Stress reduction tips: exercise, obtain adequate sleep, learning relaxation techniques, healthy eating, hobbies/ having fun, reducing/ eliminating liquor intake, (prayer, or attending Church if you believe in a higher power).
Best of luck!
i would suggest therapy to start with. and learning some breathing exercises. there are alot of people who only go through this for a short time so don't give up hope. take care. remar