Is this a form of anxiety or something else?

[April2]

I hate feeling like this. I don't know if it's anxiety or a form of ocd or what. I have so many good things in my life, friends, family, my relationship with my Lord whom I love very much. But I will fixate on the one bad thing that comes up and fixate on it, stress about it, obsess about it, to the point that it's all I'll think about.
I'm a big people pleaser and if I feel someone's mad at me or if they say anything bad to me or about me, I will do anything to try to make things right. I will become very anxious about it and obsess about it until I see things are fixed. When my mom and sister fought and stopped talking for awhile, it made me anxious and upset and I just wanted them to make up. When I see people shouting or arguing or whatever out in public, I will immediately become very anxious, my stomach will tighten up, my heart will beat faster and I just want it to stop.

Another thing I've noticed is if there's too much chaos or noise it will make me anxious. If the dog is barking,  the TV or music is too loud or someone raises their voice, my stomach will tighten up and I feel anxious. Or is this just stress? I can't tell if it's stress or anxiety. Whichever it is, are there any suggestions that can help, besides moving to a monastery somewhere and living in solitude,lol.

[April2]

Wow, thanks! I may have to check that out. What's sad is I see that perfectionism in my 20 year old son, too, and he seems sad or angry a lot. I saw immediately what a perfectionist he was in kindergarten when he'd rip up a paper that wasn't perfect. Poor kid, I wish I could help him more.
I even feel guilty that I may have passed on some of these traits to my kids! My teenage daughter has problems with anxiety too. It's not usually too bad unless a big change happens. Then she has an anxiety attack. I just want to be able to help us all.

Thank you again for your suggestion on the book, etc. I'll check it out.

[AJWS6]

It's a combination of stress and your personality.  Your a perfectionist.  I read a book by Dr. Bourne, called Anxeity & Phobia, that goes in depth, about individual personalities, very informative.  

And one of the subjects, he discussed were people that alway's tries to please everyone, in turn causes stress then anxiety.  Perfectionist.    

But it's a great workbook, to use in learning the type of person you are, and how to deal with the challanges pertaining to your personality.

I'm a perfectionist.  

Sorry couldn't be more help, but try the workbook by Dr. Bourne.  

Good luck !!