Is this an anti choice site. I notice none has had abortion. for any anxiety disorders

[chelle_1]

I've been read  this site and it seems as though everyone is religious. I am not. do i fit in here.  I had an abortion in my youth.  I had extreme panic ocd and depression and was taking valium.  i made some tough choices. this website has made me feel alone.

[terry2420]

I am pro abortion depending on the situation. But dont let anyone tell you you were wrong it is your body. And that is your choice. My son just had my first grandson and I love him to death. But the mother is not so good with him I kinda have a feeling i'm going to be raising hi but I will deal with it when it happens. My son is a great dad but you just see the difference. When she has the baby and when my son has him. But back to your subject it your body and no one can tell you what you should do. I lost 3 babies early on so I know it is so hard on your  emotions. You can add me to you friend list or what ever it is on here first time for me. But I was raised catholic but I dont practice that religion any more. I believe that everyone should believe in there our god. He is in many differt  forms . And if you dont belive in god that is your business. Both my sons say they dont so I just tell them they are old enough to know what they want to believe in. Sorry so long Thanks Terry

[nora006]

Hello again Michelle.

Only you know the true reasons for your decision and that is really the only thing that matters at the end of the day. That goes for EVERY choice or decision we make in our lives. I know now that people will always judge me from their own moral points of view, personal experiences or whatever. And I can't avoid that. That's just life. I happen to have an illness that some people(including some doctors) don't even believe to be real. What can I say? This experience has certainly helped me realize that I can't let other people's judgement and personal points of view(especially not any random doctor's!) stop me from trying to live my life the best way I possibly can, though it hasn't always been easy.

I'm not american but I understand provoked abortion is a much more controversial topic in the US than in Northern Europe where I live. The anti choice movement is quite marginal now, but the women's rights movement(and the feminists) did a profound and real hard work in the 70's and 80's which I'm forever grateful for. But everything comes with a prize, and we are constantly being criticized for being godless and profane in this part of the world. Well....I can live with that.


Nora

[RubyWitch]

The ONLY person you need to justify your decison to is yourself. That you felt, and still feel, that your decision was right and moral is all that matters.

There will always and forever be people who believe THEIR moral views are the one and only true way. History has sadly taught us that lesson over and over and continues to this day. Those who spew hate at those of us with differing moral values are, in my opinion, the ones who are spiritually bankrupt.

You say you have had much therapy about this, but it didn't help. I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know how long ago that was, but perhaps it would be worth another try. There are some excellent medications now aimed specifically at OCD. If you aren't being treated now, there is a great deal of help available. There is no reason to keep on suffering. I don't know that I've helped you at all.............just know that I, for one, totally understand your position.
Peace
Greenlydia

    

[chelle_1]

My question or concern,  is That I do not have quilt or feel I made a mistake.   I felt and feel perfectly moral about my decision, however 16 years after the procedure,  I passed a gigantic billboard put up by a right to life org.  It had an 8 mth fetus on it,   with the words CHOICE OR CHILD because my ocd focus was about harming, especially fears of harming children., I was thrown,  and devloped an obsession that I did this and it wasn't just a thought,  therefore I am bad and I murdered my own child.
          I Michelle Do not feel this way,  It is my ocd brain,    I have had much therapy about it,  nothing helped until I met a woman with the same obsession.I do have resentment concerning the born again christians, who spew hate at me,  for somthing they know nothing about, and they , because of my disorder,  Have caused me much unnessecary suffering.  I would never try to take someone's faith from them.    sincerely chelley_1

[RubyWitch]

This forum is NOT based on any religious creed whatsoever. But as in any situation where you have a huge cross-section of people, you will find a huge mix of views and opinions. You seem to have stumbled across ONLY those posts written by folks who are vocal about their religions and base their replies on religious beliefs. I have seen quite a few posts that invoke religion as a means to end someones suffering, to find true happiness, to gain peace, etc, but as with ANY opinion, we are free to chose to accept or ignore it. If you were searching out posts about abortion, were you really surprised that the pro-life folks waded in? I can see where that could easily give you the impression this forum was not the place for you. I can promise you that this forum is open minded, non-religious and non-judgemental. I can't promise you that about the people who may reply to your posts! Especially with a topic as controversial as abortion.
I believe if you posted your fears, your feelings, your concerns, you would receive a very mixed bag of replies...........you just have to know that as in the "real" world, you are going to have a certain group of people who will blame all your troubles on what you did in your youth.
The folks who post here with anxiety from smoking pot, or having had pre-marital sex or sex with a prostitute...........there are always going to be those who do nothing but point their finger. The solution to that is simply take what you can use and leave the rest.
You ARE in the right place, you are very welcome here and I can only hope that we will be able to offer you the comfort and support you're seeking.
Peace
Greenlydia    

[MrGreen]

Far from religious here. Only time you get me in a church is funerals and the likes. It is a mixed site. People have their own views. Why should we discuss religion on an anxiety forum? It is not an issue. Each to their own. Or abortions for that matter. Not got to do with anxiety at all. So we have no need to even bring up the subject. Unless we want people to know what we are into to gain their full attention. You can write all that stuff in your profile. If people want to read it, so be it. If they don't they won't.