Meltdowns

[RoXaLot]

Newbie here with frustrating symptoms! i am 30 and starting up an exciting business (consulting) and my anxietys are getting soo bad im exausted from it. symtoms: dizzy, unbalanced even when sitting on a chair! blurry vision, waves of panic like i want to collapse while im having conversations with others. and **** concentration, i feel sick everyday and im scared to start my new job for fear of my clients noticing and failing...i know all the hard work long hours of planning has started these feelings along with 3 demandng kids under age of 10. i have had panic attacks before years ago which was triggured by uni presentations! found telling others my fears lessoned it all. i dont want to go on any medication and just want some advise on how to handle it! natural remedys????

[RoXaLot]

yea i guess..i have stopped drinking coffee but now im extra tired from not having it. dr said it can make it worse and i am sensitive to coffee makes me buzz ive never been a coffee drinker til the last two years. any way yea i get how associating things with my anxiety can ruin other things i enjoy.

[TomMiner]

I have also found that anything you associate with your anxiety, can grow to increase it. Your associating coffee with your anxiety because your searching for a reason for why you feel the way you do. This could be anything, cigs, coffee, alcohol, marijuana etc. Anything that you might enjoy doing but may cause health issues or a dependence on, you create this bridge in your mind linking the two together. Therefore ruining something that you once enjoyed. Its best to try not asssociate anything with your anxiety, the more you understand how it works, the more you can control it without taking meds. Meds generally make me tired and drowsy so I know how you feel about not wanting to take them

[RoXaLot]

thank u for all ur comments i think ur all right and i agree tomMiner the fear of panic attacks is what sets them off...it is all heightned by the stress. i have found COFFEE contributes to the manicy feeling too..so iv laid off it for now.

So good to have people who know what this **** is! Thanx all

[erin626]

You're definitley going through a lot of stress right now. Maybe going to a therapist and learning new coping skills would really help. I know my therapist has been challenging my thinking about my anxiety. I don't necessarily think you would need meds, I noticed meds made things worse for me. High stress makes anxiety show itself so maybe diffusing the stress through therapy will help. Good luck! You can do it and get it under control.

[TomMiner]

I think that your fear of the anxiety itself is what brings on your attacks. My anxiety is always on the back of mind, so as long as I think about it, I feel it. Stress is a huge factor and I found that talking about it and recognizing it for what it is, is the one thing that helps me feel better. Your fear of failing your children and your new job are factors all playing into your anxiety. This is very stressfull. Think of the positive outcomes that are bound to happen with your success, and work towards it. You are most likely over tired and this can play a much bigger role in your anxiety than you might think. I'm not a doctor, I'm just a kid, but talking out your fears and sharing them with people close to you can help bring some closure to your fears. Everyone needs some positive reinforcement, especially someone who is depended on by a lot of individuals. Good luck to you

[weaveme]

Even though you may not want to hear this, with your new endeavor and 3 kids under 10, I would highly suggest talking to a dr about this stuff.  What if there is something else going on besides what you think there is?   If other things are ruled out and dr wants to give you anti anxiety or depression meds, do not be afraid to try them out.  If you had a heart disease would you take meds?  high blood pressure?  Diabetes?  Mental illness is the same thing ( I finally convinced myself of that!).  I am a 38 year old male with 3 kids, accounting business on top of a day job.  So I can relate.  Sometimes you need some meds just to get you back on track.  Statistics show therapy combined with meds is the best treatment so thats what I would suggest.  I started taking meds at 30, weaned myself off this past June and am now paying for that mistake as I am just now getting out of a 10 week depression with anxiety.  It is not fun especially for a mother who has to take care of the kids.  Luckily my wife really stepped up for me.   Best to you,

Mike