anxiety

[sheilajill]

Can someone please tell me that I am correct that I have anxiety from my fiance yelling at me often?

[sheilajill]

I am not perfect.  I know I expect too much sometimes.   But this yelling is more than I can handle.  It's difficult to avoid doing what makes him yell because his reasons for yelling changes.  If it happens again, I am telling him to stay away from me until he gets help for himself.  

[sheilajill]

  I know I do.   I keep hearing promises and then they are broken.

[Paxiled]

Well, given that much time, you must be under a lot of stress, both from the yelling and trying to avoid doing whatever it is that makes him yell, which probably has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.  So you have anxiety from two things:  the yelling, which I don't know if you know it or not but that's used as a torture technique (I had a brother who yelled, and he got his way), and from you not doing anything about it, which has probably made you feel a bit helpless.  This has to stop one way or another.

[nursegirl6572]

You have some serious thinking to do.  WHY would you put up with him yelling at you for almost TWO decades?  That's just nuts!

You deserve to be treated better....when is enough enough?

[sheilajill]

This has been going on for 14 of the 15 years I have been with him.
I HAVE been diagnosed with anxiety.

[gemme26]

ofcorse !! that can give you bad nerves

[Paxiled]

No.  That's not anxiety, which is an irrational fear of things you're not really afraid of.  Yelling, if it is indeed yelling, is a factually disturbing thing that is causing you to build up stress.  You need to deal with this, because if you let it build the stress could lead to anxiety, so either you work this out with your fiance or it's time you find a different fiance.  I mean, do you really want to spend a lifetime being yelled at?  Now, we only have one side of the story here, so I only speak assuming what you're saying is the way it is.

[gyspy09]

Yeah bc it can b stressful but are there other thing that give u anxiety?  Cuz don't wanna get in the middle of stuff I don't think that would b the only thing to cause it..