help plz

[ruinslock]

I am really scared of posting this problem has been bothing me and i am sort embarrassed i dont talk to anyone about my problems or if i have they have shot me down .
My problem goes way back when i first was dating my wife . we were very close and i loved spending time with her . I was watching a movie where this girl died , that reminded me of her . Now everytime i see or be around her, i get paranoid she will die . I have lost my total relationship with her cause i pushed her away .
Plz help me find what is wrong . Therapy does not help so far . I just want my sanity back .

[cnote]

Therapy is a great start! Don't give up on it! You are doing the write thing!
Sounds to me that you have a fear of loss.

Have you ever experienced loss before? Like a family member or anything?

Keep us in touch, we are here to help. I'd be interested in what your therapist is saying.

You can overcome this fear. =)

God Bless you, and good luck.

[cj29]

Fear of losing someone close to you can really take its toll on any relationship.  How long have you been going to therapy?  It sometimes can take a little while to see progress, but just keep on going...it can only help.  While I am not in your situation, I was really afraid of death for awhile, but realized that it will someday and I have to cherish every moment I have.  I lost my self identity, became depressed, and was so afraid to die that I would not live...I know it may sound a little cliche, but it is true.  Our fears can often overcome our will in some situations.

But I believe you are doing the right thing.  Therapy can be a long and arduous process; sometimes you don't realize your making progress when you actually are.  Please keep your questions and concerns coming.  Also, welcome to this forum; you will find a community here that listens, cares, and can really relate to what you are going through.  Please keep us posted.