am i?

[jawzlyn]

Hi i would like to be put on the pill. but sadly my mom thinks it is a really bad idea. but to me i think it's safer. and so i guess my question is if i have to have my parents consent to get put on the pill?

[cellen402]

I would just stick with condoms if I were you.  I wonder sometimes if getting on the pill is worth the health factors that could potentially come with it.  I've been on the pill for almost two years and I find that it makes it easier to think that it is okay to have sex without a condom since I can't get pregnant, but it does not protect you against STDs.  A lot of guys who say they have been tested haven't and say that they are clean just because previous partners have said that they were clean.  I've had it happen firsthand.  Just be careful.. it is hard to remember all this in the heat of the moment.  :)

[jawzlyn]

well thanks i know to stick with condoms, i don't have unprotected sex at all. it is gross and an easy to get a disease or get babies. all though i do want a kid now but my boyfriend has said no just wait until i at least graduate he is not wanting to mess up my future. well he has had sex once and that was the pull out method which didn't work. she got pregnant and then got an abortion 6 months into the pregnancy.

[jawzlyn]

i do trust him i trust him a lot. which is weird because i don't trust a lot of people and have never trusted a boyfriend before. the pull out method doesn't work with him since he got one of his ex's pregnant his junior year. and she was a total bit#$ and got an abotrion 6 months into the baby all because my boyfriend and her brother didn't get along. and he is affraid iam going to do that. my mom will just make me break up with tom. and wont let me go anywhere there is no adults.

[cellen402]

I always thought I knew how to stick with condoms too but when you do trust a guy, it perceived to be more romantic, ya know?  I would say make a day of the both of you getting tested at the clinic.. a couple grown-up thing to do (and to make sure he's clean, lol.)  There are some STDs that can be passed even with a condom on (not to scare you.)  & That's pretty respectful of the guy not wanting a baby yet so that you can graduate.  Yeah, I would definitely get graduation out of the way so you can spend time with the baby and not have to deal with all the drama that comes with it at school.

[jawzlyn]

yea i do know that. i just don't know how to tell him i wanna go and get tested just to be sure. wiht out him thinking i have an std or something you know what i mean? december11th is our 7 month aniversery. and he said he would like to try adn if i can't do it we will wait till i am for sure ready. that's what his mom siad to buyt if it does happen it's going to stay with his mom

[Annagg599]

well, some birth controls arent safe, some cause HPV and some (if take over a long period of time) will destroy your uterus to where you wont be able to have children. I rather not take it (i am married, so i can so that). I was on the patch, but I didnt really feel it was safe because it is a patch, how is that suppose to work?(i thought) also I was on a Birth Control that I didnt have a period for 3 months and then at the end of that third month I would get it and it would last a week. BUT it didnt it almost lasted 2 months. My friend had sex with her Husband and was on birth control and he wore a condom and still got pregnant. You cant really say that birth control is safe. you dont know who is being safe these days. Dont have unpretected sex untill your married. at least have the guys give you the test results from his HIV, HBV, HCV, AIDS and STD test befor you have sex. YOU DONT TO DIE YOUNG......DO YOU?