out of control 5 yr old

[stayhomemommy]

I feel at my wits end! I am a stay at home mom with two boys and I can say they are both testing me just my oldest one is worse I might still have a chance with my youngest at least I pray I do. My five yr old is always going against what I say is constantly hurting someone and rude and cussing. I feel I am going to loose it. I can't even have a sane visit to the store with my son he is that bad. I am wondering if there is any suggestions. He is starting Kindergarten this year and I personally feel he will get kicked out. He accomplished getting kicked out of daycare within a week. when I tried going back to work. He is so out of control that his grandparents tell my husband and I that they fear the state will take him away what do I need to do. I have tried time out, spanking, taking toys away and nothing gets accomplished besides my stress level going up to the point I could just go and hide. As I write this it is almost midnight and I have been fightin him about going to bed for 2 and a half hours. HE DON"T LISTEN AT ALL! Please HELP if you can! thank you ~Stayhomemommy

[Sulu716]

Please don't take this wrong but maybe he needs more of your loving attention....you say it's midnight and he's still up while you're on the computer....perhaps you could read to him, help him lay down and talk to him??  he doesn't listen because you are not being a good example....he needs your love and attention.....remember children are born with a clean slate - it's us as parents that mess them up.....you get what you put in....

[margypops]

You dont say how old the other brother is but I gather he is younger  The 5 year old could be jealous as very often  they feel left out where a new Baby comes along. He is acting out because he feels sad, try to give him more attention, could his Dad play with him by himself some guy ball games and you have the younger one then reverse it you read to him and let Dad have the younger one.Spanking does not work it reinforces negative behavior and he will think he can hit out, as he sees you do it. Back off a bit ,see it as a cry forhelp and  more love and you will have a happier boy, also ask his grand parents to do the same not to say he will be taken away!!If Granpa is active can he play games with your son.