please help. who has kids already

[alexlee34]

Im so confused. Websites say not to have baby sleep in bed with you but i have a newborn and at night it seems like the only way he'll sleep is either on my chest (for heartbeat) or when im breast feeding. My mom has been helping me and has slept with him in her bed (no blankets or pillows near him and he slept sound. How many of you have let your LO sleep with you and it was fine? I'm scared to death of Sids but its the only way he'll sleep comfortably without waking up in 20 min

[specialmom]

To sleep with baby or not is everyone's choice and their is no real right or wrong.  But I will tell you, most who sleep with their infants and toddlers often return to the forum trying to undo the situation they've created.

good luck

[RockRose]

I slept with all three of my boys when they were infants.  The first two weeks or so,  they were in a basinette by my bed because I had c-sections with all of them and getting to a rising position to feed them required real planning - but after two weeks,  they slept by me.  We have a king bed,  and I always knew - asleep or awake - where my babies were and there was no way in the world I would roll over on them - or allow my husband to do that either -

You have to consider what kind of sleeper you are.  I'm a light sleeper and nothing gets past me,  but if you sleep more heavily you might want to think about other options.

[adgal]

Just wanted to say that I was super nervous about co sleeping when my son was super little.  So I used one of those co sleeping beds.  Ours actually attached to the middle of our bed, so we could sleep touching but there was no real danger of us being able to roll on him or anything, and it was the best thing ever!  It worked very well for our family and I felt much safer using it.  Now my son is 2 1/2 and still a co sleeper most nights.  We enjoy it and it works for our family.  You need to do what you feel most comfortable with.  There is no right or wrong here at all.  I do think that it's important to not feel anxious as no one sleeps then.  So if you want to co sleep and are nervous about it, use that co sleeping bed.  

[margypops]

I think its up to how you feel there are ways of co sleeping safely and many do it..Its really your choice. The ARB also sounds good , so toss a coin or ask baby what would would prefer ...

[alexlee34]

Haha awww:)

[AHP84]

I used the ARB with my second son, but he still spent more time sleeping in our bed with us than in the ARB next to our bed. Babies crave the security, warmth, and physical touch of their parents.
My son started crawling out of the ARB by 7 months old to snuggle in between mommy and daddy, lol. :-)

[AHP84]

The Arm's Reach Bassinets are sold at Babies-R-Us and Target Online.

[alexlee34]

Where can i get one of those Co sleeper things?

[babymakes04]

Both of my boys slept with me and they are fine it just becomes a bad habit to break bc they will want to do it all the time.  Best bet would be to get one of those co-sleeper things - I guess it goes on the side of your bed.  From what I heaar its good for breastfeeding mommies.  Ive never used one tho.

Good luck

[katsi1990]

I had that problem with my son. The 1st weeks hed only sleep with me. I was terrified of lying on him so after a couple of days i decided trying to get him to sleep in his rocker chair or swaddled in his moses basket. It was hard work but i couldnt give in. It was hard cos i was just really tired and i was quite terrified of him sleeping in the bed. I thought at the end of the day hed be safer in his basket or rocker. Unfortunatley it wasnt a battery rocker lol so i had to rock him anyway. Will def be buying and elec ine this time haha. It worked in the end though. So just try different ways to get ur baby to sleep. I know its hard but will be worth it in the end if ur worried bout him in bed. Good luck x

[Adjanaesmom]

They say don't because there is a risk of baby being rolled on or anything is possible while asleep and you not knowing. I have a child and one on the way but she never slept with me but I would recommend a sleep positioner for baby to keep them safer to sleep with you.

[AHP84]

I have two children, ages 7 and 2, and co-slept with both of them. There are numerous websites that you can look up that tell you how to safely co-sleep, and the benefits of doing it for both baby and you. If co-sleeping is done correctly and safely, it actually decreases the risk of SIDS.