Can i move on?

[Chaddy_wagon]

I recently feel in love at a early age. and my ex the one i feel for had a friend and he died, well she told me that she couldnt handle a boyfriend fight now so we took a break.But the truth was some girl texted her tellin her i cheated on my gf with her.idk who it is and cant find out. well things got worse and i went over to her house to talk to her and everything didnt go as planned. well we have been talkin for like 3 weeks(since we broke up) and she is going through alot and she finally started tellin me she loved me again as of like two or three days ago and last night i went to tell her goodnight and she didnt text back. i woke up to a text this morning saying that she was in the hospital. well she had a heart failure and i think its all because of me.because she is depressed and was drinking and idk what else constintly.  i was talkin to her today and she said her chest was hurting so she was gonna try and go to sleep. well i told her i loved her and she said it back. but about 2 hours ago she texted me and said i just got ur text dont bother texting back. and i was talkin to her and she told me tht she didnt know what i was tryin to do but were over. im tired of crying about u. what i cant  understand is why me? i loved this girl with all my heart and never did anything to hurt her andd i still lost her. i mean idk how i could ever love anybody else. i mean i think im a little to young to be like this and thts why im here. i really dont wanna have to get over her because i still ove her but i dont wanna be the reason she hurts herelf.

[mammo]

Good for you!  A relationship has to be a 2 way street, and it's not here.  If you have to work this hard for a relationship, you know something is wrong.  You also don't know when she will throw another curve ball at you, and keep you on this emotional rollercoaster.  Life is too short, I'm glad you're moving on.  Take care.........

[Demi_Jay]

Hey im demi and 16. I Had the kinda the same problem as you. I feel in love with this boy and then he cheated on me. It made me very depressed and i failed my exams because of him. Finally i thought i was getting over him but i was still drinking every weekend bottles of vodka too numb the hurt i was feeling. The drinking led too everyday and i was starting too have a drink problem, untill i woke up the nexy moring from a friends party and felt dizzy, lightheaded, tired etc. I Went to the doctor and he said they were syptoms of Aniexty. I had never knew what this was intill now and i hate it. The Aniexty has made me even more depressed because i used too be such a lively person and loved going out.

Its totally ruined my year and i am working to get rid of it but my friends and family just don't understand how i feel. They this im over reacting about not going out. Well im not i feel like i am going too pass out. Its a horrible feeling but it can be cured. At the moment i am just trying to think postive.

Wish you all the best of luck, Demi xxxx

[Chaddy_wagon]

yea tht has ran threw my head so many time. like is all of this a lie? and maybe it is. but im really starting to get over her like were still talkin and all like today she was tellin me like it cant happen again im sorry but ill always love you and i just dont see how if someone texted her and said tht i would talk toher anymore if i thought she cheated on me. so i really think that she hasnt been tellin the truth about everything. so im really gonna just let it go im tired of tryin to make it work if she dosent want it work out. thx for talkin to me about it ur the first. and i feel alot better now:)

[mammo]

You can, and should start over.  How much could she love you to keep this going, and never believing you?  You didn't cause her heart problems, I promise you this.  I'm sure everyone out here has been through something similiar, where we thought we couldn't live without our partner, or love again.  I promise you, that you will love again.  I know it's hard right now, but it will get better, and you will move on with your life.  Do not put this guilt trip on yourself at such a young age, you could never have this much control over someone's well being.  She had to have heart problems long before this.  Maybe she is blaming you because she really doesn't want to see you any more, but doesn't want to be the bad guy, by telling you this.  You are only human, and if she chooses not to believe you, it is best to move on, you deserve, and need trust to have a good relationship. Maybe you can't find out who texted her, because it never happened?  If someone texted me and told me this, I wouldn't hesitate to tell you who it was!  Some people will make things up when they are too afraid to say what they are feeling.  I'm not accusing her of this, just want you to think about some things.  I hope you are doing better.