Don't my parents understand

[xsmileformebabex]

My parents Don't let me do anything.They need to understand that i am growing up, i am attracted to boys, all kinds of things happening in the pre teen/teens years.

[caroleilleen]

you do need to listen to your parents because they have believe it or not been there and done that, they just want the best life for u that what good parents do, would'nt it be horrible if your parents didn't care what u did or where u are?
I Know at your age boys are great but you have a lot of time in your life for that, you are only young, HAVE FUN and hang out with your girlfriends more.
I just loved the boys when i was at school. My parents did'nt really know what i was getting up to on the weekends but they soon found out when i was 15 years old, I came home and told my mother that i was pregnant and bacause she did'nt believe in abortions so she made me have the baby, I lost all of my friends also my life. I am 38 years old with a 23 year old daughter whom i love dearly but it was no picnic it was very hard most of the time, watching my friends going out on the weekends knowing my mum would not baby sit.I have no career,i am good at house work and changing nappies as since i have had two more babies.

[ParamedFlorena]

What are the reasons of saying that they don't care? What is it they don't care about?

I remember when I was 11. Way too well. It really isn't more than 16 years ago anyway. You'll be amazed at how much they would understand if you took the time to talk with them.

Take the time to ask one of them "but what do you mean" and STOP and LISTEN to what they say. You are under their custody for at least 7 more years. you need them, they need you.

Remember that they CARE about you and only want to give you bits and pieces about their world as they see it - just like one of them maybe taught you to tie your shoes one time. They don't vanish only because you're getting older.

Find someone you can talk (over there) with and keep us updated.

Florena

[el_dave]

Obviously, the message I addressed to 121243 was supposed to be addressed to you. Too much sun on the weary old noggin.

-El Dave

[el_dave]

It's very difficult to understand, because as we grow older we get mountains of experiences we carry around. These experiences prejudice us against certain things that have caused us or people we know harm. I, for instance, just had one of my friends leave who was a student and part-time legal assistant with a good family life and was what would generally be termed okay. Now she's dumpster diving in between tricks on the street.

So let's say you like to party a little bit, and some of the boys are a touch wild, and maybe somene pulls out a harmless joint and lights it up. You take a toke, get a little bit of a buzz, gee, that's nice. At some point you realize the guy is trying to get you stoned for specific purposes, and you walk away laughing. This would lead you to believe that you're able to handle things. Say you had had to fib about where you were going because your parents knew that some of the people who would be there had past associations with drugs.. you're going to resent having to hide your activities, since you're obviously sensible and able to handle it.

The thing to remember is that my friend the ex legal assistant and current crack ho thought exactly the same thing. This doesn't mean you'd ever make the wrong little turns in life she did that eventually led to her current status, but you simply can't be sure. Your parents may have known people like that. So, since they know that things don't always turn out the way we expect them to, and sometimes we find outselves in a dank, dark basement of despair without ever realizing we were headed there, they are protective of you. From your current perspective, they may seem overprotective.

Janet, the person I'm referring to, wishes that her parents had been overprotective. Someone above said you should concentrate on school and grades, and God, she was so right. The ones that concentrate on grades don't all make it, and there are no guarantees, but trying to make good without an excellent education is like shooting for a seven with regular dice. Trying to make it with a degree under your belt is like shooting for a seven with a pair of dice that are all fives and twos.. there's a small chance of four or ten coming up, but a BIG chance of a seven.

The boys you're attracted to will become men, and will still be around when you graduate from college. Your chance of building a base for a happy lifetime will be much greater at that point than if you let current urges control you. Play it smart, be patient.

-El Dave

[April2]

Your parents are trying to protect you. Be grateful that you have parents who care so much. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. Trust me, it will happen fast enough. If you do all your living and experiencing right now what do you have to look foward to? Slow down and enjoy your childhood. Believe me, it won't last long at all.

[Atisa]

You need to cool your jets! Believe me, your parents understand. WOW do they understand. You have a lot of growing up to do, and if you want to have any kind of good future, without horrible things happening that you caused by the actions you are doing now, please, please turn your attention to good grades, getting enough sleep, good exercise, and all things GOOD. I am someone who knows. I wish with all my heart that someone had encouraged me to do good things for my future when I was your age. You DO NOT want to be the age I am now and have a life full of regret!