I am positive that I have intertwining issues that are contributing to an emerging sense of apathy that is making my life a living nightmare.
About two years ago I began to feel off. I'm a 20-year-old Japanese major, and throughout college I've only gotten one B. Physically, I am healthy, but lately I'm finding my life devoid of meaning, am constantly forgetting things, say and do things to others that I immediately regret and in general can't seem to function or plan for the future. In class I've stopped paying attention and barely care about things like the quiz that I recently failed (if I did, it would be because someone else got upset over failing a quiz). Before high school, I was ecstatic about learning Japanese, having the chance to live on my own, do my own shopping, cook, make new friends, learn instruments, get part-time jobs, fall in love, etc. Now I feel completely indifferent about these goals, don't know as to whether or not I actually accomplish them, and I can tell that I'm falling behind my peers academically, intellectually and socially.
I lead an incredibly blessed life, having had the opportunities to study and engage in activities that I've always pursued, such as studying abroad for a year on a full scholarship. Even then, I couldn't escape this merciless feeling of inadequacy, and that somehow I didn't deserve to be having such an exciting experience. Nothing I do seems right, and reality doesn't make sense to me. It's as if I can't relate to my fellow human beings. If there was culture shock or reverse culture shock after my time in Japan, I didn't even notice because I've been trapped in this ambivalent mental state.
Coming back, however, I do feel a bit estranged from all those who were close to me. My friends are uniform in their new social drinking habits (I don't drink), and are postponing entering the workforce by applying for grad school, staying in school longer etc. Personally, I can't stand academia any longer and want to begin working, but I am barely mustering the gumption to attend job fairs and search for careers.
The nature of my problem and the actions I need to take are evident. During freshman year of college I made the decision to cut a lot of meat out of my diet, but probably did not adequately make up the protein from other sources. I also became interested in macrobiotic diets minimal in processed foods. As a result, I've lost a lot of weight and constantly snack, not feeling quite satisfied. I currently weigh a little over 90 pounds and am 5'6. I do not exercise as much as I should (though I do run around quite a bit because I often forget things as I lose track of what I'm doing). I believe I am also experiencing hormonal changes, having the worst acne of my life and random bouts of crying and stress and diminished self-worth. I won't forgive myself for transgressions as minor as asking my vegan friend to buy cream cheese for me to more major ones such as not accepting admission to schools and programs that I copped out of at the last minute. I stopped caring about my appearance and how I come off to others, displaying my anxiety through incessant hair-twirling. Subconciously I abhor the way I act and treat others, and can't begin to imagine what they might think of me (hence I am always wondering).
The steps to fixing this problem are clear to me, as I've witnessed this before in peers; namely, consume more calories through protein, go to the gym regularly, find more enlightening friends and a productive hobby. But somehow I can't take the steps, since I am constantly beaten back by a feeling of inability or powerlessness, and my past attempts at pursuing interests have ended up failing and lowering my self-esteem further. I don't feel as though I can catch up to my peers (I don't think I'm particularly compelled, either).
Futhermore, I feel my abilities to accomplish things are constrained by time and ability. I am president of an on-campus club, involved in a Japanese community which calls for various events, am trying to search for careers and am generally in the busiest year of college. Yet, my peers balance part-time jobs, double majors with minors, attend on-campus activities, and still manage to socialize and get decent grades. I cannot concentrate on schoolwork, and sometimes it takes as much as 10 minutes to read one page of liberal-arts literature. This severely hampers my attempts to manage time, making me feel a bit hopeless in terms of getting my life in order. It's as though I am defective of certain human qualities necessary for survival and have to depend on others.
So, in one final act of reliance on others, I want to get some perspectives on my situation so maybe I can de-frag my brain once and for all.