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is it time to give up
Hello all,
Im not very social which is why I ask many questions here as I believe people over the internet are more honest and helpful than those not behind a computer screen. I am 20 years old and live in the great Country of Canada. I have recently gone on a crusade to become good looking. I have lost 177lbs and have been taking much better care of myself since I was 18.
As I have been doing this I feel like its becoming more and more obvious that the chance of me being in a relationship is falling quickly. I have been made fun of my entire life by everyone, including mother. My friends say Im ugly and disgusting, etc. I have an appointment to get braces in July. And I have joined a gym to try and get toned so I can tighten the loose skin in the stomach area. As I do this I look and ask around and realize that my chances are almost nothing. One of my friends said that the only way I will get a girl is if "she is fat, desperate or just stupid". All of this has kinda made me lose respect for the female population. I used to be so nice to girls but now I fear they think I am gay or just stupid so I dont help them or talk to them.
Is it ok for me to just give up and sink in to oblivion or what can I do?
Please no "girls like you for you" or anything like that as I feel it is a womens way of dishing out propaganda and is just as bad as "I like you as a friend at best"
Im not very social which is why I ask many questions here as I believe people over the internet are more honest and helpful than those not behind a computer screen. I am 20 years old and live in the great Country of Canada. I have recently gone on a crusade to become good looking. I have lost 177lbs and have been taking much better care of myself since I was 18.
As I have been doing this I feel like its becoming more and more obvious that the chance of me being in a relationship is falling quickly. I have been made fun of my entire life by everyone, including mother. My friends say Im ugly and disgusting, etc. I have an appointment to get braces in July. And I have joined a gym to try and get toned so I can tighten the loose skin in the stomach area. As I do this I look and ask around and realize that my chances are almost nothing. One of my friends said that the only way I will get a girl is if "she is fat, desperate or just stupid". All of this has kinda made me lose respect for the female population. I used to be so nice to girls but now I fear they think I am gay or just stupid so I dont help them or talk to them.
Is it ok for me to just give up and sink in to oblivion or what can I do?
Please no "girls like you for you" or anything like that as I feel it is a womens way of dishing out propaganda and is just as bad as "I like you as a friend at best"
I agree with witheredrose--take her advice because it's very wise.
Not all females are like this, and I am deeply sorry if it seemed I came off a bit harsh. Im just tring to tell you that not all females are like that..and I will say this as well..NO female is worth giving up on yourself for. Your worth more than that..your life is worth much more than having..well heck..10000000000000 girlfriends!!
Dont worry about any of that right now, worry about YOU!! Get some help with this, you wont be able to resolve the issue on your own because obviouslpeople here have tried to help you all they could, and if there great advice wasnt enough to at least make you have a little change in thought, then you need a professional. And new friends!! Those so called "friends" of yours that call you that stuff, arent friends at all!
Dont worry about any of that right now, worry about YOU!! Get some help with this, you wont be able to resolve the issue on your own because obviouslpeople here have tried to help you all they could, and if there great advice wasnt enough to at least make you have a little change in thought, then you need a professional. And new friends!! Those so called "friends" of yours that call you that stuff, arent friends at all!
I know nothing about relationships because I just havent reached that level of interest yet, so im just going to say what I think..first off, If this is an "all woman world", than why did woman have to fight for rights that men got and they didnt, such as the right to work, and even the right to simply vote? Woman didnt have much freedom in the old days. Even still now days, you walk past a work sight that has both men and woman working it, and you see a sign saying "caution, men at work". But wheres the sign thay says "caution WOMAN at work??
Anyway, like everybody else has told you..you cant just say all woman of the world are like that! I geg called ugly all the time by my own sister. Ive been bullied all my life, and still get bullied in school to this day.even by MALES.. guess what..IM A FEMALE!!
I must say, it is kind of hurtful that you would say those things. I have noticed, Its been mostly FEMALES that have tries to help you and shed some light here, but you still continue to put females down. Im very sorry your having this problem, but you cant blame every woman in the world, that isnt fair. Nursegirl specialmom and everybody else here is right, you do needbtherapy and you desperaty need to get to the bottom of all this. They have given you all the advice they can, you need to do your part. Best of luck t you.
Anyway, like everybody else has told you..you cant just say all woman of the world are like that! I geg called ugly all the time by my own sister. Ive been bullied all my life, and still get bullied in school to this day.even by MALES.. guess what..IM A FEMALE!!
I must say, it is kind of hurtful that you would say those things. I have noticed, Its been mostly FEMALES that have tries to help you and shed some light here, but you still continue to put females down. Im very sorry your having this problem, but you cant blame every woman in the world, that isnt fair. Nursegirl specialmom and everybody else here is right, you do needbtherapy and you desperaty need to get to the bottom of all this. They have given you all the advice they can, you need to do your part. Best of luck t you.
Look how good looking I am yet I'm single right now and I don't get women going crazy for me.They like the average guy these days and it's getting more and more common.Women are more concerned on the guys attitude and how they treat them rather then looks--I'm telling you.
There honestly isn't anymore we can tell you. You need to seek professional help for your thought process. Continuing this conversation is not goinmg to benefit you in any way.
Best of luck to you in all you do, Mike.
Best of luck to you in all you do, Mike.
its a womens world these days and people like me cannot make it
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